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General Interest => Open Free for All => Topic started by: Anonymous on December 27, 2007, 09:49:43 PM

Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: Anonymous on December 27, 2007, 09:49:43 PM
A man on a forum I administrate mentioned that he has monitoring software on his twelve-year-old's computer.

I instantly, permanently banned him.

Thoughts?
Title: Re: And, back in reality...
Post by: Anonymous on December 27, 2007, 10:09:56 PM
Quote from: ""Guest""
A man on a forum I administrate mentioned that he has monitoring software on his twelve-year-old's computer.

I instantly, permanently banned him.

Thoughts?


My thoughts are that you don't have a real command on the English language.
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: Anonymous on December 27, 2007, 10:26:17 PM
command "of" the English language....

To the OP... perhaps a .on.nimp.org party is in order for the vile beast?
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: Anonymous on December 27, 2007, 10:59:20 PM
Quote from: ""Guest""
command "of" the English language....

To the OP... perhaps a .on.nimp.org party is in order for the vile beast?


Actually, they're both acceptable ways of phasing that idea. "On" is the common way of expressing that thought in u.k and Oz
(i'm not the op, either)
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: 3xsaSeedling on December 27, 2007, 11:24:26 PM
:o baaaa
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: hurrikayne on December 28, 2007, 12:34:01 AM
Monitoring the actions of one's children is better than ignoring them and leaving them to their own devices.

Nothing wrong with being a participant in the child's life, openly.
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: Anonymous on December 28, 2007, 06:12:02 PM
Yes, and on THAT note - Death to this thread!
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: Nihilanthic on December 28, 2007, 06:53:00 PM
Quote from: ""hurrikayne""
Monitoring the actions of one's children is better than ignoring them and leaving them to their own devices.

Having said that, the methodology I use with my own teeneager has more to do with the "threat" that since said teenager abides in MY home, the rules I lay down will be adhered to.  I have the right to search and inspect anything within my home.  I have the ability to excercise this right at my own choosing.  Typically the threat alone is enough to keep said teenager in line, however, I have had to demonstrate my willingness to carry out said threat just as I had to carry out punishments threatened when said teenager was a toddler.

Nothing wrong with being a participant in the child's life, openly.


He's talking about being a sneaky snoop instead of teaching the child how to make decisions.

You totally missed that.
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: Anonymous on December 28, 2007, 06:58:22 PM
Quote from: ""hurrikayne""
Monitoring the actions of one's children is better than ignoring them and leaving them to their own devices.

Having said that, the methodology I use with my own teeneager has more to do with the "threat" that since said teenager abides in MY home, the rules I lay down will be adhered to.  I have the right to search and inspect anything within my home.  I have the ability to excercise this right at my own choosing.  Typically the threat alone is enough to keep said teenager in line, however, I have had to demonstrate my willingness to carry out said threat just as I had to carry out punishments threatened when said teenager was a toddler.

Nothing wrong with being a participant in the child's life, openly.


You know when you were abused in program?

You totally had it coming, and I wish they would have done it more.
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: 3xsaSeedling on December 28, 2007, 07:03:54 PM
monitoring and participating are how you remain a part of anyone's life.
that's a far cry from sneaking and snooping (which, by the way, are NOT how you build good relationships).
sneaking and snooping is how you destroy trust and respect.

I think the poster you banned should be a shepherd-not a parent.
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: Anonymous on December 28, 2007, 07:08:52 PM
Paging Dr. Redherring... Paging Dr. Redherring STAT!
Title: Re: And, back in reality...
Post by: Botched Programming on December 28, 2007, 07:09:46 PM
Quote from: ""Guest""
A man on a forum I administrate mentioned that he has monitoring software on his twelve-year-old's computer.

I instantly, permanently banned him.

Thoughts?


In all actuality he was probably talking about a "Parental Control" software that blocks out sites such as porn etc.

Hopefully it's not a spyware that is like corporations use that allows him to watch everything the child is doing.

On one hand he is trying to keep an eye on his kids, however on the other it would feel like an invasion of privacy.
Title: Re: And, back in reality...
Post by: Anonymous on December 28, 2007, 07:42:34 PM
Quote from: ""Botched Programming""
In all actuality he was probably talking about a "Parental Control" software that blocks out sites such as porn etc.

Hopefully it's not a spyware that is like corporations use that allows him to watch everything the child is doing.


No, it was the latter, not the former.

I would have banned him either way.

For a baseline comparison, 0% of all kids that I've come into contact with, most younger than 12, have either on their system. (Yes, I've come into contact with enough children of that age for that to be statistically meaningful. No, I'm not an enemy of Chris Hansen, although I can outdo him...)
Title: And, back in reality...
Post by: hurrikayne on January 16, 2012, 10:05:37 AM
Quote from: ""Nihilanthic""
He's talking about being a sneaky snoop instead of teaching the child how to make decisions.

You totally missed that.


Ah, well now that I've reread it, I do believe you're quite right & I missed that.