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Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform => The Troubled Teen Industry => Topic started by: Bunnie on July 07, 2007, 12:13:10 PM
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There are 2 Liahona Academy's in Utah, any one know anything about them??? One is owned by Degraff family, and the other by the AhQuin family....
http://www.hvjournal.com/articles.php?id=20 (http://www.hvjournal.com/articles.php?id=20)
Printable Version Vol. 7 , No. 11 , November 19, 2003
Liahona Academy, an Elite Guide for Troubled Teens
Liahona Staff: Clayton AhQuin Sr.; Joe AhQuin and son, J.T., his wife, Janette; and Clay AhQuin Program Director.
By: Robyn Heirtzler
Construction began October 9 on the new Liahona Academy located in Virgin just 15 miles from Zion Canyon. This new facility will house up to 36 boys, though the academy has been approved for 48.
The Liahona Academy came to life from a dream the AhQuin family had after working in youth corrections. AhQuin and a coworker began the CARE program, an alternative to detention for kids who weren’t in trouble too deeply yet. He wanted to create a better environment for the kids, with more rehabilitation options. He worked in the CARE program for two years before he made the decision to do something more.
The only way to create the program the AhQuins envisioned was to begin their own residential treatment center. However, after visiting many other treatment centers, the AhQuins were not impressed. “They did it in ways to accommodate large [groups of] kids, just warehousing kids,†says AhQuin. “Instead of doing that, I wanted to implement a program that really brought about life changes.â€
Three and a half years ago, the AhQuin family attended a movie about Michael Jordan at the Imax Theater at Zion National Park. As they drove away from the theater, they contemplated the possibilities of opening their own center. The name Liahona was chosen as they drove through Virgin. They never imagined at the time that they would build their facility there.
It’s not just for LDS kids, the AhQuins explain, though the name Liahona was taken from the Book of Mormon as meaning compass. The name Liahona was chosen because it’s symbolic of direction and it almost sounds Polynesian. That’s what the AhQuins wanted. Because of their Polynesian background, they’ve implemented a Hawaiian spirit at the academy. It’s Polynesian based and family oriented.
It’s also symbolic in that The Liahona Academy will help direct these boys. “When you do what’s right, you get your life back on course, you’re directed to goodness,†says AhQuin.
“We ended up choosing Virgin because it’s just beautiful. The scenery’s beautiful. It’s therapeutic. For anyone passing through, it provides a great atmosphere.†AhQuin continued, “It’s just a nice little town that even the boys enrolled in the program could provide help, service, and service for a lot of the community. We plan on providing a lot of service for everyone out there. That’s what we do.â€
“As a residential treatment center for troubled teen boys, we believe that love and discipline in a controlled environment is the key to changing destructive behavior,†say the AhQuins, directors of The Liahona Academy. They work with families by taking the troubled teens out of their current situation and giving them a fresh start in a controlled environment. This is done with parents consent and not through the court system.
“It’s a parent-based program,†says Clay AhQuin, Program Director for the Liahona Academy. He explains that they don’t take court adjudicated boys or boys with severe mental or sexual problems. They deal mainly with boys who are having behavioral problems at home and school. They use academics, therapy, positive peer culture, recreation and vocational training to bring out the best in the boys enrolled in the Liahona Academy.
“We don’t want to be a school for troubled teens,†says AhQuin. “We want to be an elite school.â€
Boys enrolled in the academy will begin at the old facility, which will be used for orientation. The old facility is a smaller home-type setting. It will make transition easier on the boys, helping them adjust to the program while the rules are explained to them. They’ll stay at the old facility one to two months while they learn what is expected of them and what to expect of the program.
Their success rate proves that the program is working. There are graduates of Liahona Academy that have said they’d like to send their children there, says AhQuin, even if they’re not in trouble. The boys learn so much and are helped in so many other facets of life, besides their behavior.
Students at the academy participate in individual therapy once a week and group therapy several times a week. They also have the opportunity to participate in recreational activities such as water skiing, swimming, bowling, basketball, football, skiing, hiking, softball, weightlifting, camping, movies and more. “We go hiking all the time,†says AhQuin, “and the boys love it.â€
In addition to physical recreation and therapy, students are taught by certified teachers in an academically approved, college-bound curriculum. This is designed to allow students to advance at their own pace and encourages furthering education once the program is completed.
The opening of the Liahona Academy will offer 40 to 60 new jobs to the area, including staff supervisors, schoolteachers, counselors and a licensed librarian.
“We hire people that are examples,†says AhQuin. “With all the credentials that they could possibly have, I want them to be a good example to the boys. As they’re an example to the boys, the boys will follow. They’re set up as Liahonas to help and guide them and direct them, to bring about positivity. The boys soon learn that Liahona spirit, and they soon leave the program as Liahonas themselves. They help their friends, they help people, they’re back in their family, always doing right, doing good, and getting their life back on track. That’s the idea behind this,†AhQuin concluded.
Current students will be transferred to the new facility upon completion, which is scheduled for March 1.
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These the same AhQuins who owned that program Maximum Life Skills where a counselor was beaten with a bat and later died of injuries after being locked in a closet?
Second, is the DeGraff family associated with Gayle Palmer DeGraff?
The same lady who apparently is associated with Sue Scheff according to the WWASPS v. PURE transcripts?
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Not sure if the Gayle Palmer aka Degraff is related to the apparently academic school :question: , but on a search I found the Lahonia Academy in Virgin, Utah by the AhQuin with gayle degraff as the contact for admission person.
Thanks for the information on the counselor, wow!
Beattie council OK's sale of school
by Vernita Peeks
Published: December 07, 2005 11:35:51 AM
The former Beattie school will be sold to become a for-profit boarding school for special needs children ages 12-17, provided the school passes inspection by the purchaser, Beattie Academy.
The unanimous decision Tuesday evening by the Beattie City Council came after a report by Councilmen Joe Studer, Kevin O'Neil and Rob Olmsted and city maintenance man Leon Krous, who went to Virgin, Utah, over the weekend to visit a school there owned and operated by the same organization that will establish Beattie Academy.
The group from Beattie also talked with people in the school community, in law enforcement and city government in Virgin.
After the report, the more than 50 residents attending the meeting had a chance to ask questions. Then the council went into a 15-minute closed session to discuss sale of property.
Back in open session, the council voted to accept a resolution prepared by City Attorney Jason Brinegar. The resolution authorized the mayor to sell the east two-thirds of block 31, which is the school, for $75,000 under the conditions that the purchaser not apply for neighborhood revitalization or any state or federal tax exempt programs, that the organization meet all state requirements for boarding schools, that a fence be erected within 90 days of any city council resolution requiring it and that the city have the right of first refusal if the organization decides to sell in the future.
The purchaser is Joseph AhQuin of Virgin, Utah, who proposes to establish Beattie Academy.
Studer said at the Tuesday meeting that the facility in Virgin is a treatment facility, not a boarding school like Beattie Academy will be.
It is about five years old, on the edge of town, near a residential area, with a stone wall but no fence, Studer said.
The Utah facility has 46 students, Studer said. He said although Beattie Academy may have 225 students eventually, that is a long way from a beginning population of 30-40.
Studer said Beattie Academy will be a boarding school, not a treatment center like the Utah school, but he would have no problem with a facility like the one in Utah. The doors are locked there, he said, the staff works three eight-hour shifts and the students are always watched. The students look like everyone else in the community, he said.
Beattie Academy board would be brothers Joe and Clayton AhQuin and Steve Hall.
"Those guys are pretty impressive," Studer said. They knew how to interact with the kids and the kids all knew them, he said.
"I went out there open-minded and tried to find out something wrong but didn't find anything," Studer said.
O'Neil said he went looking for problems, too, but didn't find anything.
O'Neil said he talked with a 16-year old from Dallas who had been there 8-9 months and felt he had turned his life around.
Krous said he talked to a student who was not selected to talk with the visitors, and he got the same response.
"This program is incredible," O'Neil said. "It's ranked in the top five in the country, and other people are coming to consult with them."
The success rate at the Utah treatment center is 60 percent, he said.
O'Neil said the Beattie group talked with mayors of Virgin and Hurricane, Utah, and with a member of the Virgin City Council whom they met in a coffee shop. The feedback was positive overall, he said.
Olmsted said it will take at least eight months before the purchasers will be ready to open Beattie Academy.
When he was asked if there would be a Mormon religious bias in the school, Olmsted said he didn't detect any type of religious emphasis in the program in Utah. They focus on the kids and their needs, he said.
In response to information that the state of Utah has more than 300 special schools and treatment centers for youth, Olmsted said he thought there are so many because Mormons are very service-oriented and put a lot of quality and care in people.
O'Neil said these are not Mormon kids in the school, and there was no chapel in the school.
Studer said the residential part of the school had two plain bunkbeds for four students in each room. It was very quiet, there was no yelling, he said.
Residents at the meeting presented petitions showing a number of people in Beattie are undecided about whether they are for or against selling the school to become Beattie Academy.
Debbie Dwerlkotte, Beattie, spoke and asked the council to table the issue of selling the school so extensive research could be done on taxes the for-profit school would pay, licensing that would be needed, financial stability of the AhQuins, and determination of requirements for a use permit to be issued by the city of Beattie.
One of the council members indicated the AhQuins have already looked at schools in other small Kansas communities and will simply go there if they cannot buy the Beattie school.
Studer said if they come to Beattie and are not accepted by the community, they will leave because community acceptance is part of their plan.
Studer said if a manufacturer bought the school, there would be no guarantee that there would be no problems with personnel in the community or that they would stay.
"I think the Academy would help this town; I think this would put some pride in the community," he said.
http://www.mvleadvocate.com/web/isite.dll?1133976951437 (http://www.mvleadvocate.com/web/isite.dll?1133976951437)
Father of the Ahquins at Lahonia in Virgin Utah?.
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www.hs.utah.gov (http://www.hs.utah.gov) UTAH DEPARTMENT OFHUMANSERVICES
March 15, 2004 Carol Sisco (801) 538-3991
Contact
News Release
State Revokes Group Home License
State licensing officials are revoking the license of Maximum Life Skills Academy in Cedar City where two teens allegedly beat their counselor with a baseball bat March 8. The counselor, Anson Arnett, died the following day.
“Results of a preliminary investigation show clear rule violations including having only one employee on duty the night of the beating,†Licensing Director Ken Stettler said. “State rules require two employees at all times.â€
A written revocation announcement - hand-delivered to Maximum Life Skills March 12 - is effective March 26. If the facility appeals by then, they can continue limited operations until an administrative hearing is conducted.
“So far we’ve found three rule violations,†Stettler said. “However, others may be added after the Cedar City Police Department releases the home’s files and we can complete our investigation.â€
Violations include:
• Only one employee was on duty the night the incident occurred and again the following day. Two are required.
• The group home failed to obtain criminal background clearances for Anson Arnett, Faa Taupau, Austin Beardall and Mona Kula before giving them direct access to children. Director Adam Ahquin’s background screening expired last September. It wasn’t renewed.
• Rules require facilities to comply with National Interstate Compact Laws. Maximum Life Skills failed to obtain such an agreement with Delaware before accepting Jesse Simmons.
Programs must cease operations after their licenses are revoked. During the appeal process they can continue limited operations but may not accept new clients.
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Gail Degraff used to be associated with a program that killed a girl. The state shut her down and she has built a career sending kids to other places or helping to run them..
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What a nice little Bitch. Anyone got her address?
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Gail Degraff used to be associated with a program that killed a girl. The state shut her down and she has built a career sending kids to other places or helping to run them..
Built a career with Sue Scheff
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Actually Palmer aka Degraff probably taught it to Sue, Degraff has been in the business since before 1990 when she was selling kids to Challenger, she might have been in the business, for longer, I am not sure.
The more I know ...excuse me ::puke::
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I am really bothered by the fact that Gayle Palmer, AKA, Gayle DeGraff is listed on the Liahona Academy website as the person to contact for "Inrollment Info." Someone PLEASE tell me what has changed since the death of my daughter............ :question:
After the death of my daughter, Gayle was shut down in Utah under the name of Gayle Palmer. Gayle moved her program (Summit Quest) to Nevada and was once again shut down. In July of 1991 the state of Nevada served Gayle with a court injunction to shut down her operation. The Nevada court injunction stated that Gayle did not like the decision of the court, so she continued to operate while hiding the children. The court injunction also stated that Gayle had an Ex-Felon working for her along with her (17) year old daughter who was supervising the "children."
In July of 1994 there was an article in the ST GEORGE SPECTRUM revealing that Gayle Palmer had started yet another program for "troubled youth." The article revealed that Gayle's program was NOT LICENSED with the state or federal government. Gayle's program was revealed when a (14) year old girl ran away and was spotted by a pair of archaelogists at a dig near Hurricane, Utah.
The Article Reads:
[http://www.caring4youth.org/350.html[/url]
I called Utah DHS today and asked Ken Stettler if Liahona Academy has to disclose the people who market their program to DHS? He told me they monitor the clients and counselors, but have no say in the marketing end. He stated they are working on something that would require honest dealings by the program to consumers. BUT, NOTHING holding the market people responsible for how they sell the programs.
SO, nothing has changed!
The same person who SOLD us a pack of lies is out there selling programs to desperate parents. How is a person to know about this person's shady past when it isn't even required by the state that these people be licensed, let alone, disclose their past? It appears that Gayle is following in Steve Cartisano's footsteps. He too took on alias names to stay under the radar.
Disgusted and Frustrated!
Catherine Sutton
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Cathy, I believe I read somewhere that Gayle Palmer was involved with Red Rock Ranch Academy, which was a wilderness therapy program that closed after the death of a young girl a few years ago.
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Yes that was Katie Lank , her mother Moira expressed to me that Gayle Degraff, LIED to her, also through Marketing the program.
She also told me that Gayle Degraff was there to greet Katie.
DHS Utah promised me that Gayle Palmer aka Degraff would not have contact wilth children.
Utah DHS cannot handle the workload they take on.
Catherine Sutton
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Yes that was Katie Lank , her mother Moira expressed to me that Gayle Degraff, LIED to her, also through Marketing the program.
She also told me that Gayle Degraff was there to greet Katie.
DHS Utah promised me that Gayle Palmer aka Degraff would not have contact wilth children.
Utah DHS cannot handle the workload they take on.
Catherine Sutton
Catherine - that is absolutely tragic.
Does your website include a history of this lady and her connection to wildeness therapy? The companies she works for that you are learning about?
Perhaps that would help get the word out?
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I forgot to ask, is there some connection between CAICA, and this Gayle DeGraff? Or PURE? It seems DeGraff is associated with programs who may be paying REFERRAL FEES (kickbacks, finder's fees) and if that is the case, than I would have to wonder about CAICA referring parents to PURE and PURE placing kids in programs this lady may we associated with?
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Catherine, are you aware that Isabelle Zehnder of CAICA has admitted to assisting in the placement of a child into a PURE recommended program?
It would be nice to know which program but I doubt she will ever disclose that information.
The only reason she admitted to this placement was because of what came to light in the Patti Atwoods emails when it was revealed she attempted to help another child through PURE.
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Gayle Palmer DeGraff's connection with Sue Scheff goes back a long way. See the WWASP vs PURE transcripts. Palmer/Degraff worked with Scheff; and would visit programs for Scheff in what Scheff called the "approval process" of the programs she refers/referred to.
Does Palmer/DeGraff continue to have a working relationship with Scheff? You'd have to ask them.
Considering the close, working relationship between Scheff and Zehnder (CAICA)--if Palmer/DeGraff is still working with Scheff; it stands to reason that she is also working with Zehnder.
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Gayle Palmer DeGraff's connection with Sue Scheff goes back a long way. See the WWASP vs PURE transcripts. Palmer/Degraff worked with Scheff; and would visit programs for Scheff in what Scheff called the "approval process" of the programs she refers/referred to.
Does Palmer/DeGraff continue to have a working relationship with Scheff? You'd have to ask them.
Considering the close, working relationship between Scheff and Zehnder (CAICA)--if Palmer/DeGraff is still working with Scheff; it stands to reason that she is also working with Zehnder.
GAYLE ::puke::
SUE ::puke::
ISABELLE ::puke::
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Here is a link to the thoughts of Catherine Sutton on Isabelle and Sue.
http://wwf.fornits.com/viewtopic.php?p=264403#264403 (http://wwf.fornits.com/viewtopic.php?p=264403#264403)
Link to Gayle Degraff and Sue Scheff on Wwasp vs Purehttp://www.isaccorp.org/wwasps/wwaspsvpure.pdf
If you read these you will know the connection to Isabelle, Sue, and Gayle.
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Does anyone have the link to Catherine Sutton's website?
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http://www.michellesuttonmemorial.com/ (http://www.michellesuttonmemorial.com/)
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Source: About (http://http://www.taylormangham.com/website/about.html) Taylor Mangham memorial site
About me
Why was Taylor sent away early on in his 10th grade year? The year started bumpy with poor attitude, failing grades and an attitude that was unacceptable at home and in the classroom. This is not the glorious part of Taylor's life but a story that should be shared if only to help one parent or one young adult. For years, Taylor suffered from childhood depression and ADHD. In earlier years he was using drugs to hide his emotions unbeknown to me; this behavior was unfortunately familiar to me and once again rearing its ugly head within our family. The difference this time, Taylor was a little older with a bit stronger attitude. Taylor always had strong opinions about life and he certainly was never afraid to speak his mind. For example, Taylor would spend countless hours arguing at the dinner table about why on earth he had to do Algebra homework, "it is not going to help me in college" or "what if I don't go to college, all of this is a waste". While it appears all bad, there were many funny moments as well. Sunday was always our day and one day the discussion was brought up about the future, what interests do you have? Is there a specific college that stands out more? Surprisingly, Taylor's response was, “you know mom, I think I'm just going to work at McDonald's, bring home the leftover food at the end of the night and live with you until it's time to put you in a home.†Taylor had an answer for everything...and I loved that he thought ahead of where I would be later in life!!
It was always a delight when Taylor was grounded. He would get in from school and immediately a fight would ensue; I think he thought perhaps my memory was already slipping. Our fight would go back and forth until the ride was out front and Taylor felt our discussion was over and would “bolt out†of the house with, “I can't live here anymore†or, “you're to protectiveâ€. As a parent, your heart breaks but you quickly get your wits about you and begin calling friends, friends of friends and naturally no one knew where he was. Hours pass by and worry sets in so you make that dreaded call to the police that your child might be a runaway. This behavior went on for a while with many failed drug tests; my favorite line I ever heard was, “someone blew it in my face at the party over the weekend,†As a parent, it is time to solicit help from health professionals and the family doctor; protective "mom mode" takes over. The first thing to go, the phone. That is the lifeline for all young adults. Naturally, there is a pass code and though it is not given, there are very helpful professionals to assist with gaining access. One word, heartbreaking. Friends you thought were friends aren't, girls you thought were good girls, aren't. I share all of this not to dishonor Taylor, but to honor Taylor because life is short enough and I did not want Taylor lost due to drugs and alcohol. If not for all the support of a few local policemen, his family doctor and therapists it is very likely Taylor would not have survived...at least not from the path he was traveling down with drugs and alcohol. The straw broke when Taylor took the family car on a joy ride...no license and all my thoughts are consumed with his safety, the safety of others and the liability associated with his poor choice one Thursday afternoon.
Things are no doubt rocky around the house with little conversation either way. I spoke with his therapists and doctor whom both agreed for Taylor's survival, he needed something more than what the local facilities offered; we had used them in earlier years. After much research, checking references and second guessing myself every step along the way, the decision was made, a private boys academy in Virgin, Utah. A mother prays and cries....and trusts in God this is the right decision for Taylor; to save my young man's life. The arrangements were made to have Taylor transported by school officials because of the past runaway issues; and you cry as your name is signed on the paperwork to send your baby off. The week of Thanksgiving is surreal as I reflect back on the events. November 23rd, we are having dinner at the table. Taylor was quiet and use to reading his body language, somewhat embarrassed. We had a close friend over for dinner so there was ideal chit chat until Taylor looks at us both and says, “I need help or I am not going to make it.†My heart breaks a little more as I look at my precious young man crying out for help and I am unable to speak of the arrangements that had already been made. We assured Taylor, we would obtain the assistance needed but he also had to commit and be open to the help being offered. The night lingered on very slowly until the cell phone rings at 4:00 AM , November 24th, 2009, the school officials had landed at DFW and would be at the house soon. We are quietly packing his bag, crying and questioning if I am doing the right thing, Virgin, Utah? You are instructed prior to their arrival for pick-up of what you are allowed to say to your child, the child that stole your heart at birth and the older he grew he found the strings and knew exactly which ones to pull; he pulled the hardest one this time. There was paperwork to sign of which is pretty much a blur. What I remember is walking into Taylor's room and being followed by two male adults. I turn on his bedroom light and at that moment, I see the most peaceful child lying in his bed, my baby. I shake Taylor a bit to wake him and say, “Taylor babe, wake up I need you to go with these gentlemen, I love you dearly.†Taylor replies he loves me and pops up, requests a quick shower and out the door they go. I am in another room with a breaking heart and again wondering if I am doing the right thing. The officials advise you along the way of the progress and Taylor's behavior. Not surprising to me to hear was how polite and easy going Taylor was during this entire process. One shared the following, “This was the easiest transport they had ever done. Within 30 minutes Taylor shared everything and why he was 'probably' being sent away.??? As a parent, it's a relief to hear how polite your child was and how open he was to complete strangers but couldn't be with me, the parent that loved him unconditionally? No, your heart (that little word again) is broken because you already know the next few months will be a challenge for us both considering we have never been separated for any length of time. No phone calls, no visits, only letter writing....yes, snail mail. The point system is 100% up to Taylor; he must follow the rules in order to gain points for privleges. Needless to say, precious had many 300 word essays within his first week. Taylor was also put on work detail, yes work detail; this consisted of moving one pile of rocks to another location for no reason at all. I can only imagine the thoughts running through Taylor's mind because he certainly was expressive about things that made no sense to him. Taylor receives a call home once he earns enough points and as you read on, you will note Taylor was working hard for that first call home, to mom. Until then...you speak with a weekly coach on Taylor's progress, therapy, issues, etc. Taylor's counselor's name was Taylor J. Taylor J. was a delightful young man of which I looked forward to our calls because Taylor and I were able to send messages back and forth through him; I am not sure if that was permitted or not?! Wednesday at 3:00 PM became my favorite day and time of the week because I knew it was Taylor J. time to hear about my precious child in their care. Thursday was my next favorite day because I would receive a letter from Taylor; Sunday was letter writing day. I wasn't sure what to expect from the first letter but for the most part, he acknowledged he needed help and was thankful...
As you continue to read on, the tab entitled “Letters†contains the letters home during Taylor's stay at the academy. If I failed to mention it earlier, the academy is an all boy's home with approximately 40 boys whom are there for one reason or another. We had the opportunity to visit the academy in the Spring 2010 and was extremely impressed with the staff as well as the openness of the young men. They shared and demonstrated with us various rituals performed each morning. They explained their days are spent studying a quote which is given on Monday to be passed off by Friday, study school work and therapy. During the first several weeks, the quote beat Taylor and he had a breakdown feeling as though he couldn't complete this program; Taylor J. and the staff counseled Taylor and gave tips on how to break down the quote and learn a section at a time reassuring him he can do anything he puts his mind to. The lightbulb went off with Taylor and he was on fire after that....he would receive the quote on Monday and by Wednesday was passing it off. As you read his letters you will see the progress made and the confidence that existed in such a wonderful young man! The remainder of Taylor's time was spent studying and reading.....Harry Potter series that is. (Many friends are laughing considering Taylor's view on those whom were followers of Harry Potter). Within the gallery contains many photos of our visit to the academy. We were blessed to hear such wonderful stories about Taylor being a leader, assisting wherever he could as well as helping “newbies†adjust to the program. And, so many comments about 'the smile', that contagious smile that never left his face despite the day he was having or his mood.
A few things we did learn while there, The Rock (picture in the gallery). If the boys were struggling and questioning “Dad†about this or that, he would have them pick up the rock and walk and talk out their problems. I must admit, this rock was large and cumbersome and believe I would have forgotten whatever my issue was after only a few steps!!
The other “funny†shared about Taylor was a roommate situation. As I mentioned earlier, Taylor is opinionated and speaks his mind. Taylor was rooming with apparently someone with a similar personality and instead of moving either boy, the desk was taped with a line as well as the room. Well, if that wasn't enough, the argument became someone's book was on the tape, seriously! The young man shared the story and all we could do was laugh. To settle the tape dispute, no book, paper or pen could touch the tape, that was the free space.
As parents, we do all we can to save and protect our children from harm which is exactly what I was doing, saving him from drugs, alcohol and peer pressure that plague so many of our young kids today. Little did I know, what I was working so diligently to save him from Taylor was taken from us due to a Brain Aneursym that had nothing to do with what I was fighting against; a silent killer. There is a letter writen by a young man that shared a room with Taylor that reveals the events of the night. It is painful to read but it gives us insight into Taylor's last moments. This loss of Taylor impacted so many young men at Liahona as well as those at Keller High School and especially our family.
This website was developed for many reasons but the main reason was to bring awareness to what is plaguing our youth on a daily basis and to bring Awareness to Brain Aneurysms. Taylor's last letter home, was the little boy I had so fondly missed but in the end, Taylor found peace. I, like most parents, searched for answers. As a mom of a wonderful young man am available to help those in need, whatever the case may be.
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Aah. I think ya accidentally lopped off the last two lines (added in at the end):
Source: About (http://http://www.taylormangham.com/website/about.html) Taylor Mangham memorial site
About me
Why was Taylor sent away early on in his 10th grade year? The year started bumpy with poor attitude, failing grades and an attitude that was unacceptable at home and in the classroom. This is not the glorious part of Taylor's life but a story that should be shared if only to help one parent or one young adult. For years, Taylor suffered from childhood depression and ADHD. In earlier years he was using drugs to hide his emotions unbeknown to me; this behavior was unfortunately familiar to me and once again rearing its ugly head within our family. The difference this time, Taylor was a little older with a bit stronger attitude. Taylor always had strong opinions about life and he certainly was never afraid to speak his mind. For example, Taylor would spend countless hours arguing at the dinner table about why on earth he had to do Algebra homework, "it is not going to help me in college" or "what if I don't go to college, all of this is a waste". While it appears all bad, there were many funny moments as well. Sunday was always our day and one day the discussion was brought up about the future, what interests do you have? Is there a specific college that stands out more? Surprisingly, Taylor's response was, “you know mom, I think I'm just going to work at McDonald's, bring home the leftover food at the end of the night and live with you until it's time to put you in a home.†Taylor had an answer for everything...and I loved that he thought ahead of where I would be later in life!!
It was always a delight when Taylor was grounded. He would get in from school and immediately a fight would ensue; I think he thought perhaps my memory was already slipping. Our fight would go back and forth until the ride was out front and Taylor felt our discussion was over and would “bolt out†of the house with, “I can't live here anymore†or, “you're to protectiveâ€. As a parent, your heart breaks but you quickly get your wits about you and begin calling friends, friends of friends and naturally no one knew where he was. Hours pass by and worry sets in so you make that dreaded call to the police that your child might be a runaway. This behavior went on for a while with many failed drug tests; my favorite line I ever heard was, “someone blew it in my face at the party over the weekend,†As a parent, it is time to solicit help from health professionals and the family doctor; protective "mom mode" takes over. The first thing to go, the phone. That is the lifeline for all young adults. Naturally, there is a pass code and though it is not given, there are very helpful professionals to assist with gaining access. One word, heartbreaking. Friends you thought were friends aren't, girls you thought were good girls, aren't. I share all of this not to dishonor Taylor, but to honor Taylor because life is short enough and I did not want Taylor lost due to drugs and alcohol. If not for all the support of a few local policemen, his family doctor and therapists it is very likely Taylor would not have survived...at least not from the path he was traveling down with drugs and alcohol. The straw broke when Taylor took the family car on a joy ride...no license and all my thoughts are consumed with his safety, the safety of others and the liability associated with his poor choice one Thursday afternoon.
Things are no doubt rocky around the house with little conversation either way. I spoke with his therapists and doctor whom both agreed for Taylor's survival, he needed something more than what the local facilities offered; we had used them in earlier years. After much research, checking references and second guessing myself every step along the way, the decision was made, a private boys academy in Virgin, Utah. A mother prays and cries....and trusts in God this is the right decision for Taylor; to save my young man's life. The arrangements were made to have Taylor transported by school officials because of the past runaway issues; and you cry as your name is signed on the paperwork to send your baby off. The week of Thanksgiving is surreal as I reflect back on the events. November 23rd, we are having dinner at the table. Taylor was quiet and use to reading his body language, somewhat embarrassed. We had a close friend over for dinner so there was ideal chit chat until Taylor looks at us both and says, “I need help or I am not going to make it.†My heart breaks a little more as I look at my precious young man crying out for help and I am unable to speak of the arrangements that had already been made. We assured Taylor, we would obtain the assistance needed but he also had to commit and be open to the help being offered. The night lingered on very slowly until the cell phone rings at 4:00 AM , November 24th, 2009, the school officials had landed at DFW and would be at the house soon. We are quietly packing his bag, crying and questioning if I am doing the right thing, Virgin, Utah? You are instructed prior to their arrival for pick-up of what you are allowed to say to your child, the child that stole your heart at birth and the older he grew he found the strings and knew exactly which ones to pull; he pulled the hardest one this time. There was paperwork to sign of which is pretty much a blur. What I remember is walking into Taylor's room and being followed by two male adults. I turn on his bedroom light and at that moment, I see the most peaceful child lying in his bed, my baby. I shake Taylor a bit to wake him and say, “Taylor babe, wake up I need you to go with these gentlemen, I love you dearly.†Taylor replies he loves me and pops up, requests a quick shower and out the door they go. I am in another room with a breaking heart and again wondering if I am doing the right thing. The officials advise you along the way of the progress and Taylor's behavior. Not surprising to me to hear was how polite and easy going Taylor was during this entire process. One shared the following, “This was the easiest transport they had ever done. Within 30 minutes Taylor shared everything and why he was 'probably' being sent away.??? As a parent, it's a relief to hear how polite your child was and how open he was to complete strangers but couldn't be with me, the parent that loved him unconditionally? No, your heart (that little word again) is broken because you already know the next few months will be a challenge for us both considering we have never been separated for any length of time. No phone calls, no visits, only letter writing....yes, snail mail. The point system is 100% up to Taylor; he must follow the rules in order to gain points for privleges. Needless to say, precious had many 300 word essays within his first week. Taylor was also put on work detail, yes work detail; this consisted of moving one pile of rocks to another location for no reason at all. I can only imagine the thoughts running through Taylor's mind because he certainly was expressive about things that made no sense to him. Taylor receives a call home once he earns enough points and as you read on, you will note Taylor was working hard for that first call home, to mom. Until then...you speak with a weekly coach on Taylor's progress, therapy, issues, etc. Taylor's counselor's name was Taylor J. Taylor J. was a delightful young man of which I looked forward to our calls because Taylor and I were able to send messages back and forth through him; I am not sure if that was permitted or not?! Wednesday at 3:00 PM became my favorite day and time of the week because I knew it was Taylor J. time to hear about my precious child in their care. Thursday was my next favorite day because I would receive a letter from Taylor; Sunday was letter writing day. I wasn't sure what to expect from the first letter but for the most part, he acknowledged he needed help and was thankful...
As you continue to read on, the tab entitled “Letters†contains the letters home during Taylor's stay at the academy. If I failed to mention it earlier, the academy is an all boy's home with approximately 40 boys whom are there for one reason or another. We had the opportunity to visit the academy in the Spring 2010 and was extremely impressed with the staff as well as the openness of the young men. They shared and demonstrated with us various rituals performed each morning. They explained their days are spent studying a quote which is given on Monday to be passed off by Friday, study school work and therapy. During the first several weeks, the quote beat Taylor and he had a breakdown feeling as though he couldn't complete this program; Taylor J. and the staff counseled Taylor and gave tips on how to break down the quote and learn a section at a time reassuring him he can do anything he puts his mind to. The lightbulb went off with Taylor and he was on fire after that....he would receive the quote on Monday and by Wednesday was passing it off. As you read his letters you will see the progress made and the confidence that existed in such a wonderful young man! The remainder of Taylor's time was spent studying and reading.....Harry Potter series that is. (Many friends are laughing considering Taylor's view on those whom were followers of Harry Potter). Within the gallery contains many photos of our visit to the academy. We were blessed to hear such wonderful stories about Taylor being a leader, assisting wherever he could as well as helping “newbies†adjust to the program. And, so many comments about 'the smile', that contagious smile that never left his face despite the day he was having or his mood.
A few things we did learn while there, The Rock (picture in the gallery). If the boys were struggling and questioning “Dad†about this or that, he would have them pick up the rock and walk and talk out their problems. I must admit, this rock was large and cumbersome and believe I would have forgotten whatever my issue was after only a few steps!!
The other “funny†shared about Taylor was a roommate situation. As I mentioned earlier, Taylor is opinionated and speaks his mind. Taylor was rooming with apparently someone with a similar personality and instead of moving either boy, the desk was taped with a line as well as the room. Well, if that wasn't enough, the argument became someone's book was on the tape, seriously! The young man shared the story and all we could do was laugh. To settle the tape dispute, no book, paper or pen could touch the tape, that was the free space.
As parents, we do all we can to save and protect our children from harm which is exactly what I was doing, saving him from drugs, alcohol and peer pressure that plague so many of our young kids today. Little did I know, what I was working so diligently to save him from Taylor was taken from us due to a Brain Aneursym that had nothing to do with what I was fighting against; a silent killer. There is a letter writen by a young man that shared a room with Taylor that reveals the events of the night. It is painful to read but it gives us insight into Taylor's last moments. This loss of Taylor impacted so many young men at Liahona as well as those at Keller High School and especially our family.
This website was developed for many reasons but the main reason was to bring awareness to what is plaguing our youth on a daily basis and to bring Awareness to Brain Aneurysms. Taylor's last letter home, was the little boy I had so fondly missed but in the end, Taylor found peace. I, like most parents, searched for answers. As a mom of a wonderful young man am available to help those in need, whatever the case may be.
With love, my dearest Taylor......
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His mom and another goaler who had her son there became upset with the text of the memorial blog:
Here is the blog entry:
Unknown - 2010 (http://http://today-a-child-died.blogspot.com/2012/01/taylor-mangham-2010.html) (The name was removed by wish of his mother)
In an remote outskirt of a small town called Virgin in Utah a 15 year old boy suddenly felt a pain in his head. What set this lethal birth defect up is unknown. Was he upset? Was he forced to move stones weighing half his own weight as they force the boys to do as punishment? Did the staff try to restrain him believing that he faked his illness?
We cannot know that. Fact is that the many miles from any hospital meant that he had no chance of survival once the attack came.
On the memorial site created by his mother she explain why he was sent away. Strange and partly dangerous behavior made his mother believe that she had no other choice but to choose a so-called residential treatment center.
But she had another choice. It is common knowledge that tumors or birth defects in the brain can push nerves and interfere with common sense.
But none show his behavior as a symptom of a deadly illness. They only saw a troubled teenager in need of a punishment and punishment he certainly got.
No phone calls, no visits, only letter writing. And the mail was not even by computer. A letter of comfort would take days to reach him.
Days of moving rocks, participating in a in-house school with a curriculum which would have been difficult to get credits for back in Texas. That was the sorry life he had to endure until his body couldn't take it anymore.
Hidden birth defects and brain aneurysm kills a lot of people every year. We need to increase awareness of that. Especially we who are parents need to be on alert so we don't commit the same failure and punish our children instead of taking them to a hospital where they can be examined and if possible treated.
May he rest in peace. His fate must never be forgotten.
Here is the comments:
From: The One Mar 14, 2012 07:48 AM (aka his mother)
To the author:
Prior to you writing about my son, Taylor, you should have taken the time to contact me, his mother, to gain insight about the facts so that you could post correct information. I am outraged by your post and do not believe you are working in the interest of human right organizations; you are exploiting the innocence of children. We have visited countless doctors, therapists, and local hospitals and not one professional said perhaps we need a brain scan. I am my sons greatest fan and went to extreme lengths regarding his personal care. I have letters from my son that do not reflect a vial facility but praised his therapists and the personal triumphs he accomplished in a very short time. You do not know anything about Taylor's last moments nor do you have any idea about the severity of his BA.
Before you post about another family's struggles, pain, personal information, take the time to gain facts about the child, the family and more importantedly, the facts. I am very vocal and have worked tirelessly to raise awareness about BA and certainly would have taken to time to correct you on your uninformed post.
From: The One Mar 14, 2012 07:58 AM
I would also like to add, I visited the facility, I talked with the children and the staff members. I also have over 40 letters to me from the children in the treatment facility and have relations with 4 children that were close to Taylor, not one of them have a negative word about their experience while in the facility. Taylor's Mom
From: Reddit Mar 14, 2012 03:53 PM
Hello Taylor's Mom,
My condolences for what you are going through. I've heard the loss of a child is the hardest thing a person can endure, and it must be difficult to see it discussed by people who don't know the facts of what happened.
There is much speculation about what caused Taylor's death right now. People are concerned about the safety of Diamond Ranch Academy and if their procedures played any role in his death. If you would like to give me more info, I can share it with the community and hopefully stop any misinformation. My email is reddittroubledteens@gmail.com.
-Pixie
From: The One Mar 15, 2012 08:18 AM
Pixie,
I appreciate the condolences and you are exactly right, the passing of a child is the most difficult event a parent can endure. The pain is felt every day... every time you look around the house or expect him in from school at 3:30...and knowing this is his senior year and I will not see my precious child walk across the stage at graduation as he prepares too enter the next milestone of his life. It isn't difficult to read the writings, it is sickening because you and whomever else is on this endeavor have no idea about the facts of probably any of the innocent children you are writing about.
Do you track the number of teens that die each year while playing sports? Do you track the number of teens whose parents have given up on their child which leads the child to death due to drugs and/or alcohol? Do you track the number of teen suicides? Or, do you track the number of teen overdoses? Just in Tarrant County alone the numbers are disturbing.
I will email but your post proves my point, that you and others don't have your facts straight; Taylor was not at Diamond Ranch and there isn't much speculation about his passing. I have the doctor's report as well as the state's investigation and I am fully aware of the massive BA that ruptured in Taylor's brain; there was no recovery - even if the hospital had been beside the school!
Where is the post that while as parents we were devasted by the sudden loss of Taylor, we had the where-with-all to donate his organs so others could be saved? Or, the effort that has gone into raising awareness about Brain Aneurysm because while a small amount, they do occur in children.
What community? Because what I have read thus far is not impressive because you and others didn't take the time to fully investigate the facts prior to writing; and writing about a child that is not your business. I want his name removed from this posting; show it is unknown if you are set on writing such information but again, you and others do not have the right to communicate anything about my son when you do not have the information correct.
Taylor's Mom
From: BeatriceJensen Mar 15, 2012 10:57 AM
I agree that the local doctors and hospitals should increase their awareness regarding brain aneurysm. A young man aged 19 died from our town died some years back when he was playing badminton.
His family has told me that he changed his behavior months before it happened. He became more agressive and less tolerant. They were concerned and visited their family doctor. The doctor believed that it was some kind of phase. Then he suddenly dropped to the floor during a match and it was too late to do something for him. It was properly the stress of the match which killed him.
In another case a boy in a group home called "One Way Farm" was pushed. He continued his day but started to complain of head ache hours later. He was given some pills and then they continued their day. Suddenly he dropped death on the floor and now the boy who pushed him is awaiting trial. It is hardly fair.
It is a tricky illness and I can only give your my condolences regarding your son.
From: GitteH Mar 15, 2012 12:46 PM
His name has been removed. I don't know who made the assumption that he was at Diamond Ranch Academy. The facility involved in this case is Liahona Academy outside Virgin. It was another boy who died at Diamond and the family ordered a second autopsy so the cause of the tragedy is not determined. We will respect the wishes of the family and remove their sons name entirely from this entry. The url will be fixed by our technical department.
We are sorry if we offended anyone. Our only goal is to bring awareness to the fact that residential treatment in many cases has been proven more deadly that the original problem the residential treatment should address.
From: MaureenB Mar 15, 2012 07:02 PM
You should be ashamed of yourself! You don't know what you are talking about, on many points!
My son was Taylor's roommate and will clearly remember that fateful night when his aneurysm burst. The distance from a hospital is immaterial. Taylor had immediate attention by a medical professional on staff but it was too late. Through my professional medical training as a Physician Assistant, I am cognizant of the fact that, short of being ON an operating table at the time that it blew, Taylor's aneurysm would have been fatal. How dare you question what happened!
As to your opinion of schools such as Liahona, I am convinced that you have a jaundiced view. My son is a member of a FB page called Liahona Brothers, started by one of the boys who was there when my son was. The boys who have turned their lives around due to their time at Liahona do not look back in a negative manner. They realize that they made choices that had them on collision courses with disaster and that the lessons learned at Liahona made all the difference. Many of the boys have friended staff members from Liahona on their Facebooks. Some boys have gone back to visit after graduation.
On the 2 year anniversary of when my son left home to go to Liahona, he posted on his FB that sometimes going through hard things makes people stronger and wakes them up to a reality check that ultimately improves them. He wouldn't want to go back to Liahona but would actually like working in a school like that to help other young men. My son was on a track that would have resulted in him not graduating high school. He spent his Junior year at Liahona, got caught up on his credits to meet Michigan graduation requirements and did well! He pulled his GPA up, scored 32 on his ACT, successfully completed his senior year at home and is on scholarship now to Utah State University.
I am quite taken aback by the claims and statements in your posting. You do not have all the facts and yet posted in what seemed an authoritative manner. It might be well for you to look up the definition of libel.
Until you have walked in the shoes of a parent who finds themselves up against the wall with a beloved child who has made too many wrong choices, you will never understand the heartache and pain that we have experienced. Sending my son to Liahona was the right choice. Dana's choice to send Taylor was the right choice. Perhaps you should look at his memorial website and read his letters home. Have you done that? Have you read the letter sent the day before his aneurysm blew? Have you read the quote which he chose to share with his peers the very day he died? It is almost prophetic: "What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others is immortal and lives on." ~ Robert Pine
So what are you doing for others?
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Reviews from Troubledteen.net:
I am a former student. If you want to mess up your kids life, send him here. All of my co-students will agree. Not a day goes by I don't think of how terrible that place is. Boy's home's are cash cows in Utah. Like Oil in Kuwait. They aren't there to help teen boys, they are there for the 5,500$ a month from each resident in an extremely low budget environment. They prey on parents that are worried about their son and have no where else to turn, like mine and my fellow's. They have a 0% success rate. If you wonder why..any kid in hell will tell you.
First of all. This place was pure hell. It didnt not help me whatsoever with anything it made me want to drugs more. Clay(owner) is a money hungry Mormon. He rolls around in his Benz and acts all tough. the only tthing I learned in the 13 months I was there was the Rubik's cube. The other students were the best part. The staff plays favorites and all the kids I met here all relapsed. They brainwash you. The unlawfully make students sit in chairs and watch walls for hours on end. Make us memorize quotes that are easily 2 pages long. In one week while at the same time writing essays for the most bull shit reasons. This place made me worse and my family regrets it. Clay and the entire staff just care about the 60,000 a year. If you care about your children please don't send them here.
Mean people
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Pro-program monster mom on Liahona:
...rambling story about how much she had to endure.... (http://http://mightymom.hubpages.com/hub/Choosing-a-Rehab-for-your-Teen)
Based on the advice of people who told me he needed to be "broken down then built back up" I enrolled him in all-boys Liahona Academy in Virgin, Utah. Plus points: During the 11 months he was there (it's a lockdown facility) we know he was safe and sober. He also did some schoolwork and, because there is no TV, took up reading for pleasure for the first time. The on-site psychiatrist made a nice therapeutic complement to the "law and order/military" approach of the rest of the staff. Also, relative to other programs, the cost is reasonable (around $5K per month -- plus travel expenses when your teen "earns" visits from you, and later, a home visit). Minus points: Emphasis is on a wide range of behavioral issues, not just drug/alcohol abuse. The actual recovery program is minimal. The effects of the program seemed to wear off as soon as my son returned to his "real world" environment.
...rambling story about how much she continued to endure....