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AF
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Icon 1 posted December 10, 2001 09:38 PM Profile for AF Author's Homepage Email AF Send New Private Message Edit/Delete Post I'm happy that my son is not on drugs and doesn't seem to have the very serious type problems I've seen here. However, I'm VERY concerned about him. For the last three months since he met this girl at school, he has completely changed. He no longer wants to be a doctor, he no longer wants to study, no longer wants to play sports, no longer wants to go to the college he has talked about for over 10 years. He was just fired from his part time job and got into a weird situation where my car was totaled and he showed almost no sympathy or remorse in the situation. He has been screaming and cussing at the entire family since he met her. This girl CHEATS on him with her old boyfriend on a regular basis. So far she has done it four times. He has "broken up" with her four times and within 24 hours is back with her. She swears to remain faithful each time. The third time we took away his cell phone because we discovered she was frequently calling him on it. He lost the car because it's in the shop for A MONTH and I'm unsure if I want him driving it again. He also is grounded Mon. through Thurs. for getting poor grades due to lack of studying. He's studying a little more since we put this arrangement into effect. Tonight he informed us that although he broke up with the girl on Friday, he is back liking her again. I lost my temper and yelled at him. Then he called me a F...ing B.... My husband didn't do anything, and so now I'm also furious with my husband. The girl had an abortion right before she met my son. Seems she had unprotected sex with her old boyfriend in an attempt to get him back. My son is a completely different person these days... obsessive, abusive, oppositional, lazy and devious. PLEASE give me some advice. Thank you. Posts: 222 | From: Southeast | Registered: Mar 2001 | Logged: 64.12.102.27 | Report this post to a Moderator
andoverdee
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Icon 1 posted December 11, 2001 04:46 AM Profile for andoverdee Email andoverdee Send New Private Message Edit/Delete Post Hi there:
Not knowing you or your son personally it's kind of hard to give advice, but these are things that spring to mind.
It sounds like more is going on for your son than just his obsession with this girl. Has he picked a new peer group along with this girl? Are you sure there is no drug involvement? It is always worrisome when kids suddenly make such complete shifts in their goals and aspirations.
I would recommend family counseling as a first step, particularly if you are all unable to just sit down and calmly discuss what's going on. I'm sure a lot is going on inside him which is bringing about this behavior.
My guess is that the girl is just a symptom of other more deeply seated issues.
best to you
Dee
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Dee
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Lon
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Icon 1 posted December 11, 2001 10:09 AM Profile for Lon Author's Homepage Email Lon Send New Private Message Edit/Delete Post Hi AF
Dee is right, in his head there is probably a lot more going on, and it sounds like no one, especially him, has a clue as to what is going on in his head. But at some level he has to be aware that he is screwing up big time, and some form of desperate.
Counseling might help, but my experience is that too often that is too little too late. Its worth a try, but based on his recent actions, and mentally draw a straight line for the next five to ten years, where would you think he would be? That vision should be the one you keep in mind as you consider what kind of intervention he needs.
To properly advise you as to what course of action would be most appropriate would take a full consultation, for us to get fully up to speed as to what he (and you) have been doing. That is part of the services we provide and you can get more information how we do that by calling my office at 208-267-5550.
Otherwise, definitely continue reaching out for help and ideas - on this board, to local counselors and resources, your clergy, etc. You have a big job ahead of you getting a better understanding of what this behavior might really mean as to what is happening in his head, which of course is the first step to properly intervening.
Good luck!
Lon Woodbury IECA
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linny
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Icon 1 posted December 11, 2001 03:45 PM Profile for linny Email linny Send New Private Message Edit/Delete Post I agree--my first thought is drugs. I'd start with a UA (Urine Analysis). My daughter used marijuana occassionaly but it didn't show up on her UA so just because it's clean, doesn't mean they aren't using.
Second, I would make an appointment with a psychologist and ask for a full psych eval for him if his UA is clean. Even that might not show what's really going on--my daughter answered how she thought she should answer on her first eval on a couple of the questions. She was first diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD).
She ended up in a wilderness program (court ordered), came home the end of June, started slipping again when school began, had her 2nd psych eval and was more honest/less fearful of the outcome/desperate for a fix/more aware of what she was feeling as a result of the wilderness program (and ironically because she reestablised a relationship with an old boyfriend who is very supportive and caring/stays out of trouble/helped her sort out her emotions--really an answer to our prayers).
The diagnosis on her 2nd psych eval was different--she's now on meds for depression and obsessive-compulsive anxiety disorder and doing fairly well so far. When she's stressed or depressed she swears/hits/destroys/etc...meds have reduced this considerably, we had one incident in the last 4 weeks (since she finally got on the full dose).
Lon does know the programs that are available--many of the parents here started with a wilderness program as a wake up call and then moved their children on to therapeutic boarding schools. Good luck with your son! Use anything you can from the board that fits your situation--you'll get some ideas that will help, some that don't fit--just sort through them all.
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In God's wildness lies the hope of the world--the great fresh, unblighted, unredeemed wilderness. --John Muir
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My daughter used marijuana occassionaly but it didn't show up on her UA so just because it's clean, doesn't mean they aren't using.
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Occasionally must have meant once in a very very long time if it didn't show up on a UA. Pot lasts a long time in your system. There is no way her daughter could have had a "problem" with pot (if that is even possable) Stupid parents like this are one good reason why they should just legalize it.
Second, I would make an appointment with a psychologist and ask for a full psych eval for him if his UA is clean. Even that might not show what's really going on--my daughter answered how she thought she should answer on her first eval on a couple of the questions. She was first diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD).
Is there anybody who doesn't get diagnosed with that bullshit?
Quack: Is your kid acting odd, dressing in black, listening to Marilyn Manson?
Scared parent: Why yes he dresses in black. He hangs around with those weird artsy kids too. I heard he was experimenting with that Wicca stuff too. I think he might be gay. Is is drugs? ooh. *bites fingernails*.
Quack: It might be. Even if his UA is negative you never know. Kids fool the system you know. They're manipulative like that. It sounds like your kid might have ODD.
Scared parent: Oh my. that sounds bad.
Quack: Oh it is. It's very dangerous. Your kid might be smoking pot now but with the art-fag crowd it sounds like he's hanging around with he'll probably end up at the bathhouses shooting heroin and having group sex all day long. I think you should get in touch with my friend Lon, who can help you find a school where your child can get the help he needs. He sounds very troubled.
Scared parent: Ooh. I'll do that. Anything to help my poor pookie. Oh i hope it's not too late.
The diagnosis on her 2nd psych eval was different--she's now on meds for depression and obsessive-compulsive anxiety disorder and doing fairly well so far. When she's stressed or depressed she swears/hits/destroys/etc...meds have reduced this considerably, we had one incident in the last 4 weeks (since she finally got on the full dose).
Whee. Back from program and heavily medicated. When all else fails. Dope your kid into an obedient daze.
Kid: I feel much.. better now.. i'm just so happy.. to be here with my loving family.. I needed help and i'm so glad they sent me to that wonderful place with the happy people... I'm just so happy now... The doctor says i'm all better but i mustn't slit my wrists anymore so he gave me these happy pills... oh mommy i love you... i love life... i love this tree... i love this chair... wheee.... tell it all brother...
Happy Parent: Oh we're so proud of our daughter. CEDU has truly turned he around into a nice little girl. God bless that sweet, gentle soul, Mel Wasserman for saving our daughter's life.
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I didnt know that some kids were court ordered to wilderness programs, you'd think a judge would be smarter than that.
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I just can't read this shit. I mean what the fuck do you say to someone like that? Holy shit. They fucking wonder why there's a problem. Every time I read crap like this it makes every bit of what I went through with my kids mean that much more to me. I'm finally on the other side of it al. There were times when I was afraid she really might do some damage to herself before she woke up, but it was all worth it. The lessons she's learned mean something. Her behavior has changed because she got tired of living the way she was. To try and control and force a kid, to refuse to accept that they are going to grow up to be a completely different person than you are or what you imagined (more likely had planned out) for them does the exact opposite of what you intend. Parents like this are involved in a power struggle with their kids, they have no interest in really understanding the child and what feeds their soul. They have no respect for the individuality of the child and certainly don't respect the boundaries that are supposed to form during adolescence. Zappa's quote in my signature says it well.
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I just can't read this shit. I mean what the fuck do you say to someone like that? Holy shit. They fucking wonder why there's a problem. Every time I read crap like this it makes every bit of what I went through with my kids mean that much more to me. I'm finally on the other side of it al. There were times when I was afraid she really might do some damage to herself before she woke up, but it was all worth it. The lessons she's learned mean something. Her behavior has changed because she got tired of living the way she was. To try and control and force a kid, to refuse to accept that they are going to grow up to be a completely different person than you are or what you imagined (more likely had planned out) for them does the exact opposite of what you intend. Parents like this are involved in a power struggle with their kids, they have no interest in really understanding the child and what feeds their soul. They have no respect for the individuality of the child and certainly don't respect the boundaries that are supposed to form during adolescence. Zappa's quote in my signature says it well.
Amen...this was truly scary shit
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Exhausted, Me and my mother used to have communication problems also. Still do but much bettter now. I hope ya all get your situation resolved.BTW, my mother is Username Buzzkill here on Fornits.
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Nathan, your parents did not raise you properly.
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Exhausted, Me and my mother used to have communication problems also. Still do but much bettter now. I hope ya all get your situation resolved.BTW, my mother is Username Buzzkill here on Fornits.
Good to hear nathan, I'm glad you sorted it.....I doubt it'll happen for me now but I won't lose any sleep
Bsarro God hates you
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Exhausted, your jealousy of me is so transparent.
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Jealous ??? Of what ??? :rofl:
You pretending to be some high & mighty Godly person, you know the type who goes to church and counts their money, preaching with the holier than though attitude
Yet cannot accept others for who or what they are.......watch out BSarro, the Jews are coming for you, do you dream about it at night
You ought to darlin' - Jesus was a Jew - do you even know what INRI stands for?
Translated speciay for you as you seem to have little or no understanding of your religion, it means "Jesus of Nazareth, the King of the Jews" - "Iesus Nazarenus Rex Iudaeorum"
Go say 10 hail mary's and beg for forgiveness, chop chop
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Exhausted, Me and my mother used to have communication problems also. Still do but much bettter now. I hope ya all get your situation resolved.BTW, my mother is Username Buzzkill here on Fornits.
Hey there son of mine.
check your private messages
BSarro?? Will someone please tell me this "person" is not for real? Has to be someone pretending to be smooth brained - Surely, no one can actually be So absolutely asinine.
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BSarro is not asinine, BSarro is a chosen one, be careful what you say, you may get struck by lightning :lol:
Nice to meet you Buzzkill, nice to hear your son speak highly of you, great you two could get it together in the end :wink:
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BSarro is a low-ranking troll. I thought everyone would have figured that out by now.
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BSarro is not asinine, BSarro is a chosen one, be careful what you say, you may get struck by lightning :lol:
Nice to meet you Buzzkill, nice to hear your son speak highly of you, great you two could get it together in the end :wink:
Well, Bassaro might be the chosen one alright - but chosen for what, is a interesting question. Nice to met you too. :D
GMDP - I naturally thought B an ass was a troll; but this is the first troll I ever had send PM. Usually they stick to the forum. Made me wonder.
Seems we have our own Borat.
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Buzzkill, I was feeling special for a while. I thought I was the only one who got a PM from BSarro, She even offered to have me see a psycotherapist that she knows, LMFAO!
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And I bet she knows many many psychiatrists :roll:
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What secret are you talking about? If you are talking to me. If not, sorry for the misunderstanding.
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Outed on Struggling Tards? Please elaborate.
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I don't want to spill the secret. Come on Michael.. tell us all.. If it makes you feel any better I can vouch for the fact you were outted on Struggling tards in a round about way.
:question: :question:
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Is the secret that Exhausted and Buzzkill are one and the same?I think they might very well be the same.
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Is the secret that Exhausted and Buzzkill are one and the same?I think they might very well be the same.
Somehow I doubt Buzzkill is a boozehound or stricken with crabs
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Is the secret that Exhausted and Buzzkill are one and the same?I think they might very well be the same.
Once the cockring goes through the cock, it stays in the cock.[/list]
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Is the secret that Exhausted and Buzzkill are one and the same?I think they might very well be the same.
Will you buzz off mike... er i mean Bizarro. Even i've figured it out by now.
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Okay, I am completely lost. Can someone please tell me what is going on? And what does ST have to do with anything? The only one I ever talked too off ST was Exhausted and a Christian Mom, who I gave Buzzkill's info to.
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Who cares. This horseshit is completely childish
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Well, being that no one wants to elaborate, I will not ask any more.
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I can only assume you are refering to Exhausted. So, lets say Exhausted said whatever. So now Exhausted, who has been on here a total of what? a week? speaks the gospel truth?
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Well, if you are saying that Exhausted said whatever about me , then I guess she is a liar. Considering all my conversations with her have been mostly about her situation mixed in with my life situations, which have nothing to do with Fornits, ST, or the like, then I have no further recourse than to call her a liar. Certainly would not be the first time I have been decieved.
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cut it out you two or take it to free for all.
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Well, you said my partner or whatever from ST and Exhausted is the only one I have talked to from ST off ST. AIM, MSN, EMail, get the point?
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Well, if you say it, it must be true. But where exactly do you think I know Exhausted from? And what made you all of a sudden come to this revealation? What exactly are you claiming me and Exhausted are after? What is our supposed agenda?
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Okay, I misunderstood. I do not know anyone from ST who I communicate with outside of the ST site other than Exhausted.
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What the fuck is this? TSW, what the hell exactly are you threatening him with? If he wants to troll ST, isn't that his business?
Michael, why don't you just tell Three Springs Wanker to go fuck himself and stop dragging this out?
Jesus. Do I have to start bringing out angry teenagers to beat your heads together Combatribes style?
(http://http://www.duumvirate.net/ctribe-2.png)
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:-? So Dr Evil is Michael Muldoon?
LOL Even I didn't know that!
And if he isn't, then apologies to Michael....who i speak to alot but not through Fornits,you know with there being life outside fornits & all that
I don't know what's going on or what you think we talk about, but I haven't said anything about him, here or on ST....what I say to him I say only to him!
Michael I can assure you I haven't said anything to anyone about you, I'm not sure where this sudenly came from, I'm as much in the dark as you as to why TSW asked you what your secret is.....this is the 1st time I've ever discussed Michael on the open board and I feel uncomfortabe with it
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Gentlemen, please, really. Why does it always start in fun and end in fellating Horses?
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What do you think equine therapy is?
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"hai2u.mpg" if it's the sudweeks :rofl:
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I wonder if any newbie were told there is a former program employee here, how long it would take for someone to figure out it was you,TSW. Gather around kids, full disclosure or early bed without dinner and a snack.
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Don't think they would have to go read that to come to that conclusion. Of course, if they said that the former employee was also a rat bastard, that probably would expedite things.
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Why cant I get a frikkin shark with a frikkin laserbeam on its head ?
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How about naming names? Being that Exhausted is the only one I have talked too, I am curious how many people know my emotions. Talk about being a person with a big mouth and a small dick. Grow a dick and start naming names.
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Ya know, unless you guys are going to tell us what the hell this is about, could you take it to PMs or something? It's really frustrating.
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Do be a gentelman and apologize to Exhausted for your poor trust in her.
What does this mean, why has he exhibited poor trust in me? I haven't said anything bad about him to anyone!!
No matter what anyone thinks of me, there are 2 things in this life I am definitely not...a thief or disloyal - I have asked you TSW what it is you think Michael has done but you won't answer me, if you feel he has been untruthful with me, then why won't you say so?
Edited to add: I speak with Michael about alot of things, but even with me, he holds back on a lot of what's happened with him, so I don't know the full details of how he's feeling and why.
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:rofl:
SHUT THE FUCK UP
all of you
jesus. fellating horses. bla bla bla bla. are too, am not, are too, am not. He said she said... God you people remind of of a group/rap. Go take it to free for all please. pretty please. This has fuck all to do with the TTI anyway. sure some people might know what's going on but others have no clue.
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Do be a gentelman and apologize to Exhausted for your poor trust in her.
What does this mean, why has he exhibited poor trust in me? I haven't said anything bad about him to anyone!!
No matter what anyone thinks of me, there are 2 things in this life I am definitely not...a thief or disloyal - I have asked you TSW what it is you think Michael has done but you won't answer me, if you feel he has been untruthful with me, then why won't you say so?
Edited to add: I speak with Michael about alot of things, but even with me, he holds back on a lot of what's happened with him, so I don't know the full details of how he's feeling and why.
This isn't about you at all. Don't worry. it's mostly a misunderstanding.
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Okay, but I do consider Michael a good friend and I don't like to see him being pounced upon
No more to be said from me on this subject ... even though I had no clue what it's about anyways
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its about Dr. EVIL and one MILLION dollars.
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It might be about a retard named Niles. Anyhow, can someone please tell me how to delete posts because I want to delete the majority of mine seeing that they are causing such a distraction and taking away from the purpose of this forum. It is like having cyberstalkers.
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Hey i want my own stalker, all the best celebs have them y'know
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Hey now...
I think the horse would be more than welcome to have gotten off without having to slap its dick up against its belly all by itself without needing something else.
Shit, you might as well buy icecream for a guy after giving him a blowjob... :rofl:
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Hey i want my own stalker, all the best celebs have them y'know
Translates to: I have less than a clue than Oz Girl. Please pity me.
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:rofl:
SHUT THE FUCK UP
all of you
jesus. fellating horses. bla bla bla bla. are too, am not, are too, am not. He said she said... God you people remind of of a group/rap. Go take it to free for all please. pretty please. This has fuck all to do with the TTI anyway. sure some people might know what's going on but others have no clue.
Do you have some sort of fetish about fellating horses? Rather frightening you brought this up. If we all insist on keeping the group going lets probe the inner horse fellating issues. I will go first.
I once saw a porno about horses being fellated. It turned me off to porn for about 3 months. It was so disgusting, in such a disturbing way, I found it impossible to turn off. Sort of the 500 pound fat chick theory. No matter how much you don't want to look you still look anyway. Can't say I have ever had the desire to physically blow a horse. I highly doubt MGDP will actually do fellate a horse, but if he, or anyone else, wants to practice fellatio on horses, they should feel free to do so. Not sure what criminal statutes they will be breaking, they might want to look into.
I imagine there is some sort of horse fellatating courtesy they need to investigate as well. Do you give the horse a cube of sugar after the deed, or before? Maybe a cigarette would be in order? An extra cup of grain and a spray down might be sufficient to compensate the horse? Important questions these, I am hoping someone will please answer them.
I hear those Hollywierd movie stars do strange stuff with hamsters. Anyone want to share stuff about hamsters? Now is a good time I haven't eaten my breakfast yet.
Translates to: I really want to have someone post some bit torrents about horse porn, but I don't want to directly ask anyone.
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I can post a thing on a ranch who provide this service for those who wish to have horse sex, it's very disturbing how they think
I t was at this particular ranch the guy who was killed after having sex with a stallion - they are very very strange people
Fornits Interpreter, please don't pretend to know what i think or feel, you have no idea, I don't wnat pity, i wnat to help my kids, that is my sole purpose for getting insight from ppl who know! if you have an opinion, at least et your facts straight before airing them, idiot
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intrepeter is a troll.
Also, Mr. Hands is a internet hero now :rofl:
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who's Mr Hands?
So much to learn, so little time
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He's the guy who got fucked to death by a horse. :rofl:
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He's the guy who got fucked to death by a horse. :rofl:
i don't want to know how you know that... and please please. no links. ::noway:: ::noway:: ::noway::
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He's the guy who got fucked to death by a horse. :rofl:
i don't want to know how you know that... and please please. no links. ::noway:: ::noway:: ::noway::
4chan's /b/ section (NOT SAFE FOR WORK AND THE MENTAL STATE OF MOST PEOPLE) has had it posted in animated *.gif form from time to time, or people making songs in tribute of the guy.
heh.
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http://www.smh.com.au/news/national/bes ... 70706.html (http://www.smh.com.au/news/national/bestiality-charge-droppped-against-lismore-woman/2006/12/18/1166290470706.html)
Bestiality charge droppped against Lismore woman
December 18, 2006 - 6:55PM
A bestiality charge laid against a woman accused of engaging in an indecent act with a horse has been dropped in a northern NSW court.
Tina Maree Watkins, 35, of Lismore, still faces a lesser charge of behaving in an offensive manner, but Lismore Local Court was today told that it too may be withdrawn.
Police had alleged Watkins was behaving offensively with a horse in a paddock in a residential area of Wilson Street, Lismore, on November 27.
Lismore Local Court was today told a psychiatric report would be carried out to assess her eligibility to have the remaining charge dismissed under the Mental Health Act.
Magistrate Annette Sinclair granted the woman a continuation of her existing bail and adjourned the matter to the same court on January 31.
AAP
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I remember being in Tijuana, ripped on tequila and dirt weed...The club we went into was called "El burro de amor", or something. It was a donkey show, and things were going as well as they can for a woman being screwed by a jackass. Unfortunately, Senor Eeyore's harness snapped and his full weight (and length) came down. End of show, end of donkey woman, end of me being able to keep the tequila and beans down. Golly, you hear a lot of weird and unnatural things these days, and they're only half-truths. The whole truth is far too mind-rending and gut-churning to ever make it to the masses.
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Why not send the teens here, I mean these people seem stable :o
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b3aRebr75fg (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b3aRebr75fg)