On 2003-02-07 02:09:00, twistdwile wrote: no teenager would ever wnat to go to a treatment center of any kind. be honest. but the teenage years are the years of stupidity. that is why they need other people to think for them. " |
Hmm. Whether to send your son to a brainwashing camp full of really sick child abusers who operate off of truly bizarre, disturbed principles and are guaranteed to seriously hurt him, or not?
I don't know! Maybe you should read the rest of Fornits before you make such a hard decision.
Quote from: ""Guest""Hmm. Whether to send your son to a brainwashing camp full of really sick child abusers who operate off of truly bizarre, disturbed principles and are guaranteed to seriously hurt him, or not?
I don't know! Maybe you should read the rest of Fornits before you make such a hard decision.
Are you a parent? Do you have a troubled teen? If so can you give me some words of wisom because we are totally lost here. He is currnetlt a run away, failing school and doing drugs. Aside from juvy which i feel is horrible what else can we do??? I appreciate all the help!
Unfortunately, you won't find much help on this website - my advice is to continue doing research and meeting the people at the facilities to determine where the best fit is for your son. This website you've stumbled on will only give you criticism for even considering placement. These are some angry kids...
Quote from: ""Guest 100468""Unfortunately, you won't find much help on this website - my advice is to continue doing research and meeting the people at the facilities to determine where the best fit is for your son. This website you've stumbled on will only give you criticism for even considering placement. These are some angry kids...
AMEN to that! Although not all here are "kids", there are a lot of angry folks, many with good reason, and many because they are negative followers not interested in proactive helping - only tearing down.
Quote from: ""Guest""Quote from: ""Guest 100468""Unfortunately, you won't find much help on this website - my advice is to continue doing research and meeting the people at the facilities to determine where the best fit is for your son. This website you've stumbled on will only give you criticism for even considering placement. These are some angry kids...
AMEN to that! Although not all here are "kids", there are a lot of angry folks, many with good reason, and many because they are negative followers not interested in proactive helping - only tearing down.
No, what we're doing is challenging parents to use some critical thinking skills and see this industry for what it is. A money making sham. I'm 42, went through a program over 20 years ago that nearly destroyed my life. I'm the parent of two grown children, one of whom scared the living shit out of me for about 6 years or so, so I'm not talking out of my ass here.
Its real easy to simply dismiss what's said here because of the volatility, but if you slow down for a minute and think about what these kids have been through. They're angry for a reason. A good one. If you're a parent, it should be important enough to you to sift through the so called 'bullshit' to find the meat of the issue.
Don't send your child away. I would have much preferred juvie to a program. It doesn't fuck with your soul as much.
Quote from: ""Guest 100468""Unfortunately, you won't find much help on this website - my advice is to continue doing research and meeting the people at the facilities to determine where the best fit is for your son. This website you've stumbled on will only give you criticism for even considering placement. These are some angry kids...
AMEN to that! Although not all here are "kids", there are a lot of angry folks, many with good reason, and many because they are negative followers not interested in proactive helping - only tearing down.
I still see parents are sending thier children to concentration camps with happy names. It may have been 10 years ago when I got out of Sunhawk Academy (pre Aspen) but it still effects me everyday, and to think it was one of the better programs.. There have been news stories both on TV and in newspapers about these places and nothing really has been done and people still send thier children to them. What the fuck is wrong with parents? Being a parent myself now I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I will never send my child to one of these places, hell there is a list online of children that have been KILLED at these places! As a parent I BEG you seek counciling not just for your child but family as well... the teen years are hard (don't you remember them?) body confusion, hormones, peer presure, and all the rules you have to pay attention to don't you remember your rebellion, your angst, being pissed off cause you weren't a child but you weren't an adult, the hypocrisies that you saw on a daily basis... Wait a minute... that means its .. wait for it... normal!!! Now I'm not saying that there arn't good programs... I'm sure there may be... but my guess is that its the one that is out patient and around the corner not some hellhole hundreds or thousands of miles away... and they don't tell you that you shouldn't believe anything your child says about the program cause they're just trying to manipulate you and they should NOT say that tough love means that you have to be a emotionally dead to your child's needs (matter of fact fuck tough love.. just LOVE damnit!)... and they arn't going to tell you that all of your child's belongings are from their 'old negative' life and need to be thrown away and they arn't going to tell you that you have to keep things like family deaths and births a secret until the child gets out of the program, and they arn't going to make a child stand up in front of you and tell in detail everything that they've done in their life against their will just so they can get the fuck out. Sorry this has gotten to be a long rant but I will stop here as I could continue and turn the damn thing into a book using my experiences in the almost year I was locked away in hell.:tup: :tup: :tup: