Fornits
General Interest => Feed Your Head => Topic started by: Antigen on March 13, 2006, 10:47:00 PM
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ALICE MILLER
For Your Own Good Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence
TRANSLATED BY
Hildegard and Hunter Hannum
Farrar - Straus - Giroux
NEW YORK
Read the whole damned thing online for nuttin`
http://www.nospank.net/fyog.htm (http://www.nospank.net/fyog.htm)the war on drugs is but one manifestation, albeit a very dramatic one, of the great moral contests of our age -- the struggle between two diametrically opposed images of man: between man as responsible moral agent, 'condemned' to freedom, benefiting and suffering from the consequences of his actions; and man as irresponsible child, unfit for freedom, 'protected' from its risks by agents of the omnicompetent state.
--Thomas Szasz
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My parents taught me violence by inflicting it on me. I don't use violence to teach or discipline my child. When I catch her in a lie I explain to her how precious trust is and how by lying to me she has degraded our relationship. I ask her if she understands and then she starts to cry and so do I. That's when I hug her and tell her that I love her.
I had always been in about 2 fights a year at school and about 2 fights a year with my brother.
In $tr8 I continued to develope as a fist fighter and each time I resorted to violence I pushed the limit a little further. I had never hit anyone directly in the face until I was in $tr8. I was always afraid I would really hurt someone. I try not to resort to violence at all but if backed into a corner I will make the aggressor regret they ever looked at me. Also, I think honorable fist-fights and personal self-defense are one thing, and violence against women and children is fucked-up.