The truth about Darrington Academy

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately his family seems to relish the fact that he could possibly be physically hurt.  We only live and hour and a half way and thought about going out there with a bunch of our very large, very tough redneck friends and put a little fear into them, which we could easily do, the down side is we would probably end up in jail, which wont do my two kids at home any good.  THIS IS EXTREMELY FRUSTRATING.  I dont think there is any kid that deserves to be there.  I have written the ACLU and sent an e-mail to ISAC.  He was "enrolled" this past saturday, so I imagine he is going through the worst of it right now,  My husband and I are going to become very active in trying to get these places shut down, or at the very least regulated and monitored.  Kids need more adults on their side and parents need to take more repsosiblity for their kids actions.   :flame:

[4peace]

All I can say is keep trying.  My son was put in Casa by the Sea by his (alcoholic and abusive) father, not by me (his mom, divorced from the bad dad).  As a result, Casa only confirmed to me that he was there, then no further contact.  They never told him I'd contacted them, and refused to give him my address or phone number.  The ONLY way he got out was when that hell-hole was raided and shut down by the Federales.  Thank God for that.
His dad picked him up there and brought him back to his place.  My son called me that day and was on a plane to my house within the week.  He still has problems from that damned place.

[D??&am]

if you have ne questions abut arrington academy..please ask in this forum...."

yes i do ...i enrolled my son in this acadamy and now since im reading all this ....im flipping out :scared: if i did the right thing.....i know for sure that some of the staff are monitoring this board here too so ....i need some feedback about Darrington Acadamy ASAP


oh yeah one more thingy ....why the heck will nobody register ....and only show up as ANON. ?
[ This Message was edited by: D??? on 2005-04-29 16:30 ]

[Anonymous]

On 2005-04-29 16:27:00, D?æ? wrote:

"

if you have ne questions abut arrington academy..please ask in this forum...."

yes i do ...i enrolled my son in this acadamy and now since im reading all this ....im flipping out :scared: if i did the right thing.....i know for sure that some of the staff are monitoring this board here too so ....i need some feedback about Darrington Acadamy ASAP






oh yeah one more thingy ....why the heck will nobody register ....and only show up as ANON. ?

[ This Message was edited by: D?æ? on 2005-04-29 16:30 ]"

Read this, to get an idea of the kind of people who are now taking care of your son:
http://www.isaccorp.org/documentsam.html#darrington

And this, to get an idea of the organization you're dealing with:
http://www.isaccorp.org/wwasps.html

Get your son out of there as fast as you can. Whatever problems he has now, a WWASP facility will only make things worse. Far worse.

As for the anonymous posts-- some people, like me, choose not to register and post anonymously instead.

[D??&am]

oki ....but who are you ??and in what position are you to tell me to get him out :question:

where u a student or just a friend of someone who is in there ? or a parent ?
like to talk to ya overe the phone or email
please email me @ detleg@gmail.com[ This Message was edited by: D??? on 2005-04-29 16:57 ]

[Anonymous]

On 2005-04-29 16:54:00, D?æ? wrote:

"oki ....but who are you ??and in what position are you to tell me to get him out :question:



where u a student or just a friend of someone who is in there ? or a parent ?

like to talk to ya overe the phone or email

please email me @ detleg@gmail.com[ This Message was edited by: D?æ? on 2005-04-29 16:57 ]"

I'm simply a person who have researched this organization and who is familiar with the program they are offering. I am telling you to get him out based on what I know about these places and about WWASP. ALL of WWASP's programs are highly abusive. Their "treatment" program was developed out of a known cult, and it is claimed that WWASP itself is a cult-like organization. Many of their facilities have been shut down by the authorities (a list of WWASP facilities that have been shut down is available on the ISAC site).

I'll email you.

[Nihilanthic]

More than likely, you didnt make the right choice sending your son to a program - and I'm not going to sugarcoat anything. You should get him out ASAP and tell him right away that you will believe ANYTHING he has to say, and listen.

I helped with Chi3 getting her girl out of Carolina Springs Academy, also in South Carolina. Ask her if she regrets pulling her out!

Furthermore... why does your son need a program anyway? Have you spoken to him? Could he possibly tell you or ANYONE if he is being abused? What if he needs a doctor? Can he contact at all, even if someone is monitoring a phonecall or censoring his mail?

All of these questions *HAVE* To be answered, becuase thats YOUR CHILD in that program!  

The optimist thinks that this is the best of all possible worlds, and the pessimist knows it.
--  J. Robert Oppenheimer

[Invertix]

D?æ? you sound like someone who really cares about their child. I'm not here to tell you that you're a horrible parent for wanting what's best for your son, but you owe it to him to know exactly everything that's going on where he's at. You should be honest with yourself and ask if making your decision to send him there out of desperation and fear. If the main reason you send him there is because "you didn't know what else to do" or "he could end up dead / insane / in jail" then you should get him out of the program as fast as possible.

If your intent is to keep your child in A program no matter what a few red flags to look out for are:

- Using food as an incentive / punishment
- Using a "cool down" room
- Restricting access to the outside world
- Censoring letters (You may not know this is happening)
- Sparse phone calls, and revoking communication between you and your son should he get 'out of line'
- Revoking rights to go to class
- Keywords like "tough love", "Behavioral Modification", and "breaking them down to build them back up again"

Something to keep in mind though, is that even in totally beneficial rehab centers (I assume you sent him there for drug use) involuntary treatment seldom works for very long. Even if he graduates the program and is a model student it is a VERY likely possibility that he will try them again, and this time much harder substances. (increasing with how abusive the program might be, and how long he's trapped)

Until he has the desire within himself on his own to change, you're probably waiting your money that could be better spent towards a good education later on in life. If you take anything at all from what I'm saying it's this. Children do grow up. It might be a bit rough but families are not supposed to be easy. He has free will and he should be able to use it. Most of these programs try to take it away from them and replaces it with rules on how to think.

So, think about what's best for your son, investigate it more. Hear from BOTH sides, not just what the educational consultant and schools have to say. Talk to him, hear what he wants. Ultimately it's his life in there and if it was you, I think you'd want to have a voice in the matter.

I hope this helps.

[D??&am]

Hi
ok..i appreciate ur guys help .....one thing is, that i was in a simmilar place like this when i was a child ....and it was horrific ....so i know what its like to be ....what i can't believe is that ...they can run such an Institution here in America and get away with such thing ....so I also have my doubts about whats going on behind those doors[ This Message was edited by: D??? on 2005-04-30 05:47 ]

[Anonymous]

I can't believe that if you've been through a "horrific" experience as a child with this crap that you would even CONSIDER sending YOUR OWN kid off to a possibly similar situation.  GO GET YOUR DAMN KID!

[Cayo Hueso]

The above was me, forgot to login.  

I don't mean to come across so nasty but I was in one of those places as a kid too.  I've also got a couple of teenagers myself and have been through quite a bit with both of them.  NEVER, EVER EVER[/b] would I even entertain the thought of sending them away somewhere.  There's just too much potential for abuse in ANY of those places where the staff or higher up kids have complete control over other kids.  It attracts and breeds control freaks and cult gurus.  Please, remember what you went through and go get your child.

Men had better be without education than be educated by their rulers.

--Thomas Hodgskin

[D??&am]

what was i suppost to do ??  lock him up ?? in the house
he was violent, towards us and others ...put himself and others in Danger !!!Drug and Alcohol abuse ...stealing.... lying...u name it ...we lost control about him...3 days ago he sneaked out of the window at 1 am and got himself some beer got drunk and wrecked his car !!!

[Cayo Hueso]

I understand your feelings, honestly I do.  I've been through very similar situations with my kids.  But, you can't FORCE them to change.  You really can't...no matter what you do, you just can't. If you really have a serious problem with violence with him (and I don't mean the normal kind of kid stuff) then obviously you need to seek help, but putting him into a potentially violent situation won't really help HIS violence now, will it?

Wrecked his car?  Guess he doesn't have a car to go party in anymore does he?  When he starts to feel the brunt of NATURAL consequences for his actions he may start to realize that he needs to re-assess things.

You say you lost control of him.  You never had it in the first place, nor should you have.  Your job is NOT to control you kid.  Its to help guide him through life.

You're looking for help for your kid.  That's fine, but as I've seen Antigen write before....First, do no harm!!!

Sorry if I came across as a bitch, it wasn't intended that way.  I really do wish you luck with your son.  The nightmare times with my kids were just that for me, a nightmare so I understand the fear and frustration.

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[Anonymous]

If you question the program you selected for your son, contact Buzzkill from this forum.  She seems to be fairly level headed and has knowledge of many programs.  The reason people stay as anon on this board is because the moderator has no problem releasing your information to whomever she sees fit as long as it furthers her cause.  Being anon doesn't completely protect you either.  I am a parent that had a child like you.  It is not easy, but also, this is not the place to seek counsel.  Find others in your community and see what they have done.  Check with local youth emergency shelters and see where they reccomend.  Or contact Buzzkill.  She has had both positive and negative experiences with programs.

[Cayo Hueso]

On 2005-04-30 06:08:00, Anonymous wrote:

" The reason people stay as anon on this board is because the moderator has no problem releasing your information to whomever she sees fit as long as it furthers her cause.  

Bullshit!!!  Absolute fucking BULLSHIT!

I hold it to be the inalienable right of anybody to go to hell in his own way.
--Robert Frost, American poet