yes, to the person who is challenging what we wrote.......i was never asked to leave any program, i was never kicked out, i never even got in trouble at any of them. in fact i was always the star student, i always did exactly what i was told and excelled at it. fighting against the system at any of these places just makes for a longer more miserable experience. i left mms early because my father came out and visited for a few days on a camping trip, he was shocked at how we were treated. he was especially angry at how john merceer was ALWAYS late for groups or activities and when he did arrive he would pick a girl and basically yell at her. on that camping trip another gilrs dad was there too and he talked to my dad about how surprised he was at the way we were treated. the other girl (ashley) had been there about as long as me and we were both scheduled for homevisits a month later, we both went on our homevisits and our parents talked on the phone while we were home and they both decided to pull ashley and i out. so we never went back. mms did not save my life, my life didn't even need saving yet. as a child i was shy and didn't have a lot of friends. i was also ADHD and was always in trouble ion school for not paying attention and stuff. becasue of this in 3rd grade my schoold reccomended that i be sent to a therapist and put on ritalin. so i was, from then on i was always singled out in school as being "different" and that just made things worse. so in 5th grade i was put in the gifted and talented program at school for bright kids who needed a challenge, we got made fun of by the rest of the school and i hated it. i didn't have any friends and practically refused to go to school. my family moved right before 6th grade so i was put in another school, it was a private school full of rich kids with stuck up parents. i got in trouble there for kissing a boy on the playground and then hated that school, also i hated all my teachers and as a result was almost failing all of my classes. i never paid attention in class and definitely never participated. so for 7th grade i was sent to an "alternative school" for ADD kids who didn't fit into other schools. these kids were all artsy and "different". i loved it there, i started listening to heavy metal and dressing gothic, my therapist thought this was a big problem and told my parents that those kids were a bad influence (we had little to no supervision and the kids were just discovering that whole boyfriend girlfriend thing). so in 8th grade i was sent to another stuck up private school where i did NOT fit it at all, everyone made fun of me and i had no friends and was absolutely miserable. i hated everyone there and the teachers made me the scapegoat for everything that went wrong. i didn't particiapte in class, i didn't do homework, and they said i was "disruptive". which i probably was. i had a few friends out of school but i wasn't really allowed to see them ever. so one night i got on my bike and snuck out to see my "boyfriend" who was also 13 and had green hair. we accidentally fell asleep on a dock down the street from my house and in the morning i quickly went home to find my parents, my therapist and police at my house. my therapist told my parents i had run away and was convinced i was suicidal and had me put in a psych ward. (by the way i have NEVER been suicidal) and from then on it was all downhill. it was recomened that i be put in a long term inpatient program. the state paid for me to go to one that was DJJ affiliated, i had never been in trouble with the police, never done drugs, and never drank. i had smoked cigarettes though. in that program i learned about drugs and stuff like that. when i was 15 i left there and went back to normal school. i had a boyfriend and lost my virginity to him, i drank on weekends at parties and was on the cross sountry team. i got in a fight with a girl on day and was asked to leave the school. my parenst freaked out and got an educational consultant who convinced them i was addcited to drugs and promiscuous. (i still had never done drugs, oh and i was gothic) so i was sent to a wilderness program who convinced my parents i was goinmg to die without help, that is how i ened up at mms. mms made me say i had done drugs (i hadn't) slept with a bunch of guys (i hadn't) and say i was an alcoholic (i wasn't). they also told me i was a socipath and would probably end up being a serial killer. yeah right. i don't even like confrontations. so, you alreayd know what happend at mms. when i left there i went back to normal high school and had no idea how to fit it. i had been in programs for all of teenage years so far ( i was 17 at this point) i had no idea how to function, it was horrible and scary. i thought that if i drank i was "relapsing" if i did anything sexual i was relapsing, i was terrified. after the homecoming dance i had a beer and had sex with my boyfriend and felt so guilty afterwards that i felt like my whole life was a failure. it was then that i started drinking more and smoking pot, and taking pills. i dropped out of high school and a few months before my 18th birthday escorts came and got me in the middle of the night again and took me back to a wilderness program. after that i was sent to new haven, which i loved. but while on a homevist i accidentally fell asleep at my friend mike's house and when new haven found out they told me i would have to be back on "safety" level again and start the whole program over because they thought i had sex with him (i didn't). so when i was flying back to new haven my plane had a layover in denver and i said "fuck it" and got on a shuttle and ran away to boulder. i called the staff and tyold them i wasn't coming back (it was a month before my 18th birthday). i met a guy in boulder and moved in with him. then we broke up and i met another guy who was a dealer with a meth lab. i became addicted to meth and to get off of it started doing heroin. i was addicted to hard drugs for 2 years, and i have now been clean for 2 years. so, in conclusion. i did not need to be sent away to mms, or any of thsoe other places. in fact i blame the edcons, some therapist for my drug use and pain later. i became "institutionilized" i literllly could not function in "real life". those prorams ruined me. i still can barely have a functional relationship with my boyfriend, and i don't know how to hold a job. i missed out on key years of social development. i am very pretty, and fun, but i don't have any friends at all. so, before you judge me and think i am just lashing out because i am pissed at my parents or somehintg for sending me away, i'm not. i am pissed off at the whole industry for perpetuating all these uneccessary placements. the reason i am writing these things is that parents and friends of these girls getting sent away have no idea what their children are in for. and if they do go visit these programs i guarantee they will see only what the staff what them to see and nothing more. the girls will lie about what goes on there so they don't get in trouble. and it's not just melissa and i that think this, about ten other girls from mms have e-mailed me and thanked me for posting what i did. i guess i'll have to get them to post too so you'll take us seriously.
khambleton18@yahoo.com