this is a touchy subject and I will likely delete it. it is difficult to talk about parents because there is an innate or enculturated feeling that one must be loyal to one's parents no matter what, that it is betrayal to speak unfavorably of them.
i have given thought to why i will not even reveal my first name, and beyond that, why i will not give certain revealing details about myself or my life.
one reason that i think is the biggest reason is that my parents, most especially my mother, invaded my privacy to a treacherous degree after she put me in Straight. she not only gave away my clothes and certain things that were dear to me, connections with friends and the person i was, she also invaded my journals.
one of my friends, way before I was put in straight, said "don't keep a diary! there will just be another R*** F*** incident!" (a girl who had her journal stolen, read, and used to humiliate her by some other people).
well how right he was. some of the deepest and most long-lasting pain from straight is that my parents saw the very private side of me. they invaded EVERYTHING. my room, my books, my clothes, my journals. they stole from me. they ripped me away from my friends, and that was a physical pain the first few days I was in there. home was terrible. i spent as much time as possible with friends. i snuck out in the middle of the night to go to Denny's with them, just to shoot the shit, just to be with them.
i have had the unexplainable feeling that i did not exist after straight.
i have had the feeling that if i even listened to my favorite music, to this day, in front of my mother, that it would be dangerous.
i miss you john xxxx.[ This Message was edited by: Pietra on 2005-01-09 20:29 ]