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« Reply #210 on: January 02, 2005, 02:21:00 PM »
and just in case you missed this...

http://www.nmha.org/children/justjuv/bootcamp.cfm

Boot camps do not reduce recidivism. Numerous studies of adult and juvenile boot camps have shown that graduates do no better in terms of recidivism than offenders who were incarcerated or, in some cases, than those sentenced to regular probation supervision. In fact, some researchers have found that boot camp graduates are more likely to be re-arrested or are re-arrested more quickly than other offenders.

Boot camps may not be cost effective. Although some boot camps enable jurisdictions to save money because youth serve shorter sentences, others have found that the extra costs of operating boot camps outweigh the benefits. For example, boot camps tend to be more labor intensive and more expensive to operate. If youth are sentenced to a boot camp when they could have been placed in probation or a community-based program, jurisdictions are actually losing money.

Experts agree that a confrontational approach is not appropriate. Most correctional and military experts agree that a confrontational model, employing tactics of intimidation and humiliation, is counterproductive for most youth in the juvenile justice system. The use of this kind of model has led to disturbing incidents of abuse. For youth of color (who represent the vast majority of the juveniles sentenced to boot camps)-as well as for youth with emotional, behavioral, or learning problems-degrading tactics may be particularly inappropriate and potentially damaging. The bullying style and aggressive interactions that characterize the boot camp environment fail to model the pro-social behavior and development of empathy that these youth really need to learn.
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« Reply #211 on: January 02, 2005, 02:27:00 PM »
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On 2005-01-02 10:03:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Nihilanthic wrote:

...If anyone kidnaps me I totally plan on showing as much respect as is necessary until I can put a knife in their throat.



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Up until this time I thought he was just an angry young man. Now it's apparent there's something much scarier going on here.  



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I don't find it so.  And most of the country doesn't, or violence in self-defense wouldn't be legal.  As, of course, it is.

For anyone who believes in fundamental human rights, it's not scary at all.  It's laudable.

For kidnappers and thugs, I imagine it *is* rather scary to concieve of the possibility that when you use violent force on someone, they might just use violent force *back* on you.

You sound like a toddler who runs to mommy and tattles, "Mommy!  He hit me *back*!!!!"

Wah.

Grow the hell up.

What goes around, comes around.  When you violently attack someone, your violence begets the violence you recieve in return.

Humanity is the most successful large omnivorous predator on the planet.  Don't be so surprised when you attack one and it *doesn't* react like a sheep.

The *truth* is that the major difference between an adolescent and an adult is that when you suddenly violently attack an *adult* who doesn't want to go with you, to incarcerate him or her, it is *much* more likely that that adult will use whatever force is necessary to stop you, up to and including killing you, up to and including killing *multiple* assailants, rather than meekly going along with you.

The major difference between an adult and an adolescent is that it's considerably *safer* to attack an adolescent.

Woe betide anyone who tried to kidnap or attack me or mine---if you're any student of history, all I should need to say is that my ancestors fought at Kings Mountain, TN and that my friends and family tend to be just as deadly.

Nihlanthic--you're exactly right.  Resisting a violent kidnapping with deadly force, even if it has to include some component of biding your time to be effective, is perfectly appropriate.

Don't like it, monsters?  Then don't take blood money to violently attack people who've never done you a bit of harm.

If you're a minor, you well might be prosecuted and jailed---but that's a flaw in the laws, not a flaw in you.

The right to self-defense is one of the natural rights of man, as is the right of personal liberty.

Yes, people can legitimately be deprived of their liberty if they're active dangers (to innocent people who aren't actually violently attacking them) or if they've committed crimes---but only with due process of law.

That teens are routinely violently kidnapped and incarcerated *without* due process of law is as much an evil flaw of our government as slavery, or when wives were chattel, or any other of the historically nightmare violations of fundamental human rights.

Sometimes the law is wrong.

Which, of course, is why I'm trying to change the law.  I'd rather it be upfront and on the table for people who would do kidnappings for money that not only do they risk their own lives and freedom, but that if their intended victims may well use deadly force to stop the kidnappers' crime.

And, of course, I *don't* think someone who resists a kidnapping with force proportional to that used by the kidnappers should be prosecuted.

Kidnapping an individual over the age of reason, without due process of law, is malum in se.  It doesn't *matter* if it's legal.  It's still malum in se.

If they legalized rape, it would still be *moral* for a woman being attacked by a man attempting to rape her to fight back, even if she had to kill him to stop his attack.  Because rape is malum in se---wrong in and of itself.

You can legalize something that's malum in se, but making it legal doesn't make it right.  Just as making self-defense illegal doesn't make it immoral for someone who's being attacked to defend himself.

Good on you, Nihlanthic.

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« Reply #212 on: January 02, 2005, 02:33:00 PM »
If you think it is better to keep ones feelings tied up inside and not share them with someone, then you really are nuts. It is nothing but healthy to get to ones feelings and let them out. It is very healthy to cry and not hold it in till you explode, which is what;s happening with most of these kids. A parent has died, or a divorce or some kind of traumatic experience. for me it was my fathers death, but had no idea why i was acting out. I know now it later also had to to with my mom having a boyfriend who lived with us did not work and just use the shit out of my mom, thus i was given too much freedom and neglected. I know my mom has never stoped loving me, but was very lost at the most important time of my life. Unfortunatly i see the same story over and over again. So you see i do blame the parents for this my having to do an intervention on thier child. Very few kids have a mom and dad living in the same house or one has died. You want stats, from my 200 or so intterventions i would say about 5-10 kids had a complete household. The one that cares
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« Reply #213 on: January 02, 2005, 02:38:00 PM »
An Intervention is not a violent attack! It is anything but. If a kid does flip out, then we restrain them as safely as possible, get them cuffed and then walk them to the car.Once we are in the car it is to the kid when the cuffs come off. More stats for you, because of the way i do my job, i can count on one hand how many times i have used cuffs.I do know it is policy of some other transport companies to use cuffs. Not ours.
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« Reply #214 on: January 02, 2005, 02:45:00 PM »
COMPLETELY missing my point......again.  Of course I'm not advocating bottling up one's feelings about a traumatic event in life, you ninny.  That's what friends, family and true[/b] therapy are for.

The confessions these kids are forced into are later used against them.  If they are caught breaking a rule or if they simply express the desire to leave the program.  It usually goes something like this:

Kid - I want to leave.(having previously disclosed some sexual experience, which are the favorite at these places)

Staff/peer group: - So you want to go back out there and spread your legs like you did before???
 

It happens, and much worse ALL THE TIME.  The more gruesome the tale, the more tears that are cried the more 'love' you get.   But then it's held in escrow to be used at a later time.  It's neither healthy nor therapeutic to devulge ones deepest, darkest secrets to a large group of teenages.
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« Reply #215 on: January 02, 2005, 02:55:00 PM »
Actually, the main difference between an adult human and a juvenile human is that you *can't* manipulate an adult into abject compliance with the same ease you can a juvenile---and it's damned dangerous to try.

A pubescent juvenile will tell you to go to hell when you tell him to do something, in a knee jerk kind of way, just because you told him to do it, just to hack you off.  And then if you apply real pressure, the juvenile will cave in and fold.

An *adult* will consider whether what you told him to do is, all things considered, in his best interests *according to him* or not---and if it is, he won't allow your telling him to do it to either persuade or dissuade him.  If it isn't, he'll tell you to go to hell.

And then if you apply real pressure, an adult *may* or may not fold---but either way the adult will recognize you thereafter as an enemy and will treat you as such.  You'll never be able to turn your back on that adult again, and generally speaking he *will* eventually "get you" for it.

It's not *safe* to victimize adults.  Once an adult human has processed you into the "threat" category, he *will* bend his mind on how to neutralize that threat to himself---and don't even *think* about threatening his family.

In a civilized society, we have a lot of *chronological* adults walking around with adolescent minds.  The kicker is that being victimized will frequently and unpredictably turn a random adolescent who's chronologically adult into an actual adult---and the process doesn't work in reverse.  Once the mind change has occurred, there's no going back.

The natural human adult, like any other large predator, evaluates threats and acts to remove them----like a wild dog or a feral cat.

Domesticated dogs and cats are a lot like kittens or puppies, mentally.  Pretty much always.  They never *have* to evaluate and deal effectively with threats or die, so they never make the transition.

The difference you see in Nihlanthic is that he's been presented with large enough of a threat that he can mentally conceive of as real to trigger a chronological adolescent to cross the border into adulthood, mentally.

And the truth is that even if Nihlanthic hasn't realized it yet, the odds of him being kidnapped like one of the teens that gets stuck in programs just went way, way down.

The reason is simple:

He's thinking in terms of self-preservation, not walking around in a fog where self-destructive behavior is something to be played around with because he's convinced he's immortal---I'll bet you anything that deep down he's *not* convinced he's immortal or not (even if he hasn't yet noticed the change).

Nihlanthic very likely wouldn't make the mistake of hacking off his parents as badly as kids that end up in the programs do---he's likely to treat his parents gently, like pretty packages of nitroglycerin that won't be disarmed until the moment he turns 18.  He'll likely make his own decisions, but make very sure if he's doing things his parents would disapprove of that they don't know or find out anything that would hurt *him*.

It's just that your average adult doesn't go walking around *saying*, "If I had to kill an attacker to keep him from raping me, he's dead meat, I'd kill him."  We typically don't go around listing all the various hypothetical threats out there---because the chronologically adult puppies won't understand, and our psychologically adult fellows (half the adults walking around, at least) don't need it to be said.  And generally we limit how much we say it to avoid scaring the puppies.  I'm not sure if that's a good or a bad thing, personally.  There are pluses and minuses.

I'm sure Nihlanthic isn't slavering at the thought of being attacked just so he could kill the attackers.  It's just that he's just absorbed, on a gut level, that some clear and present dangers, some *active* threats, are worth killing or dying over.

Welcome to adulthood, son.  I hope you never have to personally fight off a violent attack.  Just as I hope that I and mine never have to.

But I *would*, if I had to.  Just as you would.

And that very willingness lets you catalog and deal with most potential threats before it ever gets far enough along for violence on *either* side to become a real possibility.  Ironically, the willingness to use violence in defense, and the awareness of when you might have to, makes you able to plan ahead so hopefully it never comes to that.

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« Reply #216 on: January 02, 2005, 03:01:00 PM »
The groups i had with my fellow dormmates 20 something years ago were very helpful and nothing like that happened at the school i was in. I agree that would not be right to do.But these kids to become like family, i've seen it. We did at my school. Of course there are always kids you don't get along with and staff you don't like either. In november my self and a partner transfered 2 boys from one school to another. They told me that there was really no one there that was all that bad and they would miss allot of the kids and staff. The next morning at the airport they had to part ways as i was flying with one to 1 school and my partner with the other somewherelse. It was very touching the 2 boys not only gave each other a hug goodbye, but also gave hugs to me and my partner and thanked us for treating them so well.
We were together for about 16 hours, before we seperated.We stayed in a hotel for about 6 hours after driving about 7 hours.so if it feels like family and there is legitament caring then it is very healthy to share your problems if you are comfortable with it. We were never forced.
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« Reply #217 on: January 02, 2005, 03:55:00 PM »
In my experience w/ teenagers, it takes a good long time to earn any real affection or respect. You can spend a few hours w/ a toddler, say babysitting over the course of a couple of days, and win a great deal of trust and fondness from them. But more mature people take longer. They're not so needy, they know more about the world and are not so quick to trust.

What makes you think there's anything natural or healthy about the way you describe these kids' behavior? In all honesty, every encounter you describe sounds like you're dealing w/ people who have been traumatized to the point of regression.

And I notice that you continually refer to these creepy expressions of love and respect like so many trophies on your book-shelf. That says a lot about you.

I was born a heretic. I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires.
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« Reply #218 on: January 02, 2005, 04:20:00 PM »
Almost every restraint I saw at desisto was done by unlicensed students. Restraints are delecate and a kid can get seriously hurt. The fact is that we were all forced to restrain out fellow students because tthere was inadequate security and not enough staff. These were also some of the main reasons leading for Desisto's inability tto obtain licensing from the state. I for one was a participant in a restraint where a kid punched out a window. In the restraint his wrist got pulled down into a glass frame, slashing it open. If it were licensed care staff doing the restraint these mistakes would not have been made, but the policy of mostly student restraints (especially in the new kids dorms) was VERY DANGEROUS and i witnessed MANY A SERIOUS INJURY CREATED FROM THIS POLLICY. YOU STEWARD ASS MOTHERFUCKERS ARE SO SILLY, YOU NEED TO STOP POINTING THE FOCUS ON ALL OF SOCIETYS PROBLEMS, TRYING TO COMPARE THE EVILS OF SOCIETY TTO THE (you claim not so bad)  "NECECARRY EVILS" OF DESISTO. LIFE IS FUCKED UP, THIS IS TRUE, BUT IT DOES IN NO WAY EXCUSE HOW MY CIVIL RIGHTS AND SAFETY WAS JEAPORDIZED, not to mention psychological abuse to the extreme.

THE FACT IS DESISTO WAS AN UNSAFE AND ABUSIVE ENVIRONMENT! IF ANYONE WHO WAS THERE CAN CONVINCE ME OF OTHERWISE, I WILL TIP MY HAT. But you cant explain away or overjustify what me and other students went thru...


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« Reply #219 on: January 02, 2005, 04:27:00 PM »
Also, 20 years ago the school was somewhat sane. I cant speak for that, but about 10 years before the close (around 94 or so) there was a series of riots. After that everything changed, unlicensed staff thorazining the kids up, and all the crazy policy i speak of. It was VERY DIFFERENT because of the fluidity of the rules and how they evolved to cope witth these kids that they were simply unprepared for. The result was all the crazy shit i speak against. 20 years ago it really wasnt even the same school, so let it go. the 95-2004 years were the really bad times i sppeak of.

and im sorry, i dont see how being forced to hold hands and avert my gaze from the normal populace by being forced to hold our heads down like some sort of freak in the Berkshire Mall on Christmas eve served any purpose but to further draw a spike between myself and "normal society".

Quite frankley i know that nobody in the world except for my classmates from that period know what went on, and they are all glad the state finally stepped in (took their sweet fucking time, thatks dicks!)

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« Reply #220 on: January 02, 2005, 05:34:00 PM »
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"...But these kids to become like family, i've seen it.

Human beings crave family.  That is definitive of our breed. Taken away, humans re-create family from whatever is available.  The Program specifically works to quickly and emphatically erase all former family and authority figures, thus speeding the substitution of The Program as the family/authority.  Sever the ties, and rebuild new ones with The Program as family.  

Does The Program tell kids from Day 1 that their "real" families hate them for what they've done to the family?  Yep.  Does the Program tell parents to write their kids that they are taking a well-deserved vacation without the screw-up kid?  Yep.  Does The Program demand a kid ask for toilet privileges, to move across a threshold, to raise a hand to speak?  Yep. This is a regression that puts the teenage kids back into toddler-land.  This is their "family", starting all over again.  

Why aren't parents allowed to call their kids soon, often, and unsupervised when first in The Program? Because The Program must have "worked", becoming the ultimate substitute family, even stronger and more demanding than the kid's original  family.  If the kid hasn't replaced his own family/authority with The Program's, he doesn't get a call home, now does he?  If that substitution mentality never comes, if the kid never buckles, then the kid can languish without contact with his parents for months and years (it happened to me and mine). You take away the basic social structure required by a human, and put something else up in front of him.  No matter how weird the kid may think this new "family", it's making the best of a bad lot, and he'll eventually adopt his new "family".  Add an "escort" who gives a tiny bit of normalcy ("Hey, how's it going?"), and the unrequited need for love springs forward.  THAT'S what your hugs of love are, One Who Kidnaps.  The ticket-taker at the airport could just as easily be the object of such love if she said, "Have a nice day"...it's just not physically possible for her to get hugged.

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It was very touching the 2 boys not only gave each other a hug goodbye, but also gave hugs to me and my partner and thanked us for treating them so well.

We were together for about 16 hours, before we seperated.We stayed in a hotel for about 6 hours after driving about 7 hours.


This dramatic "clinging", expressing love and gratitude for the slightest social warmth, is not normal.  Like Ginger says, it shows the degree of regression these kids have fallen to.  When I asked my kid how she could have made good friends with kids at WWASPS when she wasn't allowed to speak, she replied that she "knew" them from their confession stories in group, and from that very sad state of affairs became friends with people she had never spoken to.  Could you  have as your best friend a movie star who "spoke" to you from a script?  Could you love The Program director if you were not allowed to look directly at him (opposite sex), but it was he who allowed you to eat (enter the cafeteria)?  There's nothing *real* there, but for lack of a better word, some would call it love.  

It seems the majority of survivors of gulags eventually revert to more normal social relationships...they understand eventually what is, and is not, love.  It denotes a serious psychological gap when a hired thug thinks desperate hugs from kids going from one miserable family to yet another miserable experience is love.  DeSisto may have been bad for you, One Who, but you seem to have never fully recovered enough to understand truth.  Tough it is, but Love it isn't.
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« Reply #221 on: January 02, 2005, 05:56:00 PM »
Sure there's a better word for it.

It's called, "Stockholm Syndrome."

And it's the reason the kids subjected to it end up on somebody's couch years later with PTSD.

Every one of these kids should get before and after brain scans, and when the facility causes PTSD, they should pay, and pay, and pay.

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« Reply #222 on: January 02, 2005, 06:13:00 PM »
Spots,

I would add to your insightful comments:

This too is how the sexual predators are able to take advantage of the kids who have been isolated,neglected,abandoned,starved for normal attention and physical contact.

God does not like those who hurt the children.
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« Reply #223 on: January 02, 2005, 06:15:00 PM »
Of course, the only reason that would be fair is because if they were paying attention to each child's needs and treating their problems properly, no way in hell they'd be causing PTSD that the kid *didn't* already come in with----that would have showed up in the pre-admission scan.

If they cause further damage, if they harm instead of healing, they should pay damages.  If they do it wilfully, they should have to pay punitive damages.

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« Reply #224 on: January 02, 2005, 07:31:00 PM »
I never fell into the desisto stuff, i made a deal with my mom that if i did well i would get out after my 10th grade year and she held to her promise. But i screwed up more when i went home and on every vacation from the school i smoked pot, and never got caught.I did however make some friends while i was there. It was also not as strict as the BM schools today. I had a private thearapist once a week and the dorm meeetings with my peers. I do know that some of these schools you have to pay extra for thearapy.
I'm not sure what happened to the desisto school after 94 as one of the last posts says, but again it was a fair and caring school when i went there. I never saw anyone get hurt getting restrained and yes it was done by staff and whoever was near students included. I had to done to me and helped with about 3 while i was there. Again can't speak for it after 20 something years ago. I have also said that i did not personally like Mike desisto he was creepy.
But i had very little contact with him in my 8 months. The one that cares
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