Alright ottawa, i accept that you are not the person that i suspected you were, but you might as well be, because if Pat Savage was here, I bet that her views would mirror yours. truth be told, i think bryan is right, you are in denial.
Reading your posts on this topic, i get the impression that in your mind you logically divide cedu survivors into two groups: those who view the experience as positive, and those of us with who view the experience as negative. Of course you view your experience as positive, and when discussing cedu schools, it is clear that you defend the positive experience. you defend your own, all fine and dandy. what bothers me, is that it is becoming all too clear that you view the split between the 2 experiences as being 50/50 (50% view cedu positively, 50% view it negatively). YOU ARE DEAD WRONG!
Having spent 1 year and 7 months at CEDU "highschool" (it is not really a school by any stretch of the imagination), i witnessed 3 graduations, and the largest peer group that ever i saw graduate had 7 people. Please bear in mind that peer groups when formed usually have between 15 and 20 people. i also know for a fact that 2 of the peer groups that i saw graduate had combined at some point (2 peer groups combined together to create 1, this was done because either 1 or both peer groups had too few students due to run aways, expulsions, etc.) By all accounts that i have heard, this practice is typical of all cedu schools. Bryan Felscher graduated right before i split for the final time. when i first came to cedu, Bryan's peer group had just combined with the one above it, and they had 21 students. Bryan's graduating class consisted of 5 students! i've read some of CEDU's bullshit sales literature, which boasts that 80-90% of Cedu graduates go on to college. A more accurate (and by far more truthful) statistic would state that out of all the students who attended Cedu, only 15%-20% (this is a very generous assessment on my part) actually finish the program. if you don't believe me, do the math yourself, or better yet ask your son or any of the other posters on this site!!! i know that they will all agree with me!
You seem like an educated and intelligent person, i'm sure you would agree with me that the students like myself who left early (who either ran away and lived on the streets, were sent to lock ups & mental hospitals, or who were fortunate enough that their parents figured out that cedu is a big waste of money and pulled them out) do not view cedu in a positive light.
Furthermore, many of the posters on this sight, such as bryan felscher for example, are cedu graduates, and are just as disgusted with cedu as the rest of us. what is the point of all this?
my point is that you, your son, and everyone else who views cedu as a positive experience, are a minority! and not just a minority, but a great, big, huge, gigantic,larger than life, minority!!! yet you do not acknowledge this, and in fact, you continue to defend much of what Cedu does! this proves to me beyond any shadow of doubt that: YOU ARE IN DENIAL!!!
Another thing, you often speak of your own "emotional growth" experiences at cedu in a manner that to me, suggests that you believe that your experiences is on par with the rest of ours; meaning that, it seems that you believe that you understand what we went through. YOU HAVEN'T GOT A CLUE WHAT WE WENT THROUGH! i don't care what your son told you, even if you have heard every minute detail, at best it is all second hand information. And please don't compare the parent workshops to our profeets. luxery hotel suites, gourmet meals, and cocktail hour, coupled by the fact that the 24hr. profeet experience is stretched out over a 2-3 day period, with no raps: THIS IS NOT THE CEDU WE EXPERIENCED!!!!!!
As for your beleif that the confrontational methods used by cedu staff has theraputic value, again, YOU HAVEN'T GOT A CLUE!!! there is no communication in raps. Staff Members gather their attack dogs together, and scream at,
threaten, ridicule, and completely degrade
people until they have a complete emotional break down, in order to force confessions from them! you have no idea of the kind of pressure that they put on you. Many kids at cedu who really never did anything wrong, end up making things up, thinking that staff will leave them alone if they just say something, THEY DON'T LEAVE YOU ALONE! whatever you tell them, they use it to label you somehow, and then they continue to use that against you, day after day after day! i love life, and i never, ever, considered suicide before i went to cedu. i never considered suicide after i left cedu. but while i was at cedu, i thought about killing myself every single day! That is what cedu did to my head! As I understand it, your son's school RMA, actually did drive some poor kid to kill himself. Does that sound theraputic to you? HOW THE FUCK CAN YOU DEFEND THAT?
What really scares me is that you want to someday start your own school, and apparently you are considering using some of cedu's methods. :scared: PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, LIFE, CHILDREN, OR WHATEVER IT IS THAT YOU HOLD DEAR, DO NOT USE CEDU AS AN EXAMPLE!!! confrontation does not breed communication. think about your psychology courses, what they teach you. in nature, when an animal(yes human beings are animals, even though most of us think we're better than them)is forcibly confronted,there are 3 natural physical responses --- fight, flight (run away),and freeze (scared stiff).
i'm sure you agree that fighting is not a productive way to communicate (i guess it is if your message is leave me alone, i hate you, or i want to hurt or kill you). it's virtually impossible to talk with someone while they're running away from you. And people who are scared stiff either won't say anything, or they will say whatever they think you want to hear to escape the situation. this is not productive communication.
the way to successfully communicate with people is to be honest, sincere, curtious, and respectful to them. Respect their privacy, keep your conversations between the two of you, it's no one elses business anyways. listen to what they have to say, don't ridicule them, or insult their ideas and beliefs. Respect that others have the right to their own opinion, treat them as equals. Let them know that you are here to help, but only if they want it. be patient. in time they will come to trust you, and will open up to you. this is how to communicate with people, and this is exactly the opposite of what cedu does!!!
Ottawa, you've been around a lot longer than I have, you should know all of this. please, before you go on another one of your rants defending yourself and saying how we all misunderstand you, at least think about what I am saying. Everyone can talk, it's easy, but it takes real skill to actually listen.