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Offline Shadyacres

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Max, Staff or Resident?
« on: September 14, 2010, 12:24:54 PM »
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When I first arrived at the program I was not prepared for the fact that I wouldn't be able to manipulate my way out, or how restrictive it would be. So this made me pretty angry and I felt mad at my parents, not right away. I thought perhaps it was all a big misunderstanding. So I wrote to my parents asking them to please take me home, because the program I was at was not fun or helping me at all. They wrote me back to stick it out, and that I would not get pulled from the program early. This made me pretty angry with them, I wrote them some mean letters in response, and basically said we are through, don't write me and I won't write you. I don't have a family anymore. Well that didn't last too long, I eventually started writing again.

When I got out of the program I was still pretty angry. But after time passed the anger subsided and I began to look at my experience from other points of view, other than my own. Then it began to make sense, why other people would believe it was necessary for me. I get it now, and the anger has been replaced with gratitude. I don't feel anger at all towards my parents about the program anymore, mostly I feel grateful they were willing to put their foot down and, at least, keep me safe for as long as they were legally able to. I wasn't some innocent kid being sent to a program by rich parents who didn't want their kid anymore. My family suffered tremendously in order to pay for the program, and while they were sacrificing their cherished items they were required to sell in order to pay for the program, I was condemning them in letters. It must of been very difficult for them, I realize this now.

So a little while ago I decided the only way to get past my guilt in this, was to pay back every cent they spent on the program.When I was  troubled teen living with my family, all I did was take. I never gave anything other than hardship towards the people around me. So I began saving money towards paying them back for the program, and although it will probably take me a while, I think it's an attainable goal. I hope to present my parent with the check before they die, which hopefully will not be for a very long time. We have since reconciled and the program is now but a memory, and I haven't told them that I feel guilty for forcing them to send me away, and to suffer financially for it.  I will feel a lot better about myself when I can give my parent this money back, and perhaps make right something I did wrong some time ago.

I was wondering how other people feel towards their families. Feel free to post your own feelings about your family in this thread.



Sorry, I don't believe a word you say.  If you were "still pretty angry" they would not have let you out.  You sound like a program staffer, not a program survivor.
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Offline Maximilian

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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #1 on: September 14, 2010, 12:25:48 PM »
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #2 on: September 14, 2010, 12:28:09 PM »
You still sound like staff.
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #3 on: September 14, 2010, 12:31:19 PM »
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #4 on: September 14, 2010, 01:06:53 PM »
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #5 on: September 14, 2010, 01:13:50 PM »
I don't see anything respectful in PUSHING your opinions on us EVERY DAY.  You know damn well that the majority of the people here find your "opinions" offensive and therefore will never respect them.
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #6 on: September 14, 2010, 01:17:13 PM »
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #7 on: September 14, 2010, 02:13:45 PM »
You are absolutely right and I will now do what everyone else has done and just stop reading your posts, creep.
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #8 on: September 14, 2010, 02:18:31 PM »
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #9 on: September 14, 2010, 02:23:16 PM »
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You are absolutely right and I will now do what everyone else has done and just stop reading your posts, creep.


You're not alone.  I'm getting the same creepy, staff-like feeling.  Not that he is or ever was, but the mentality is there.  viewtopic.php?f=32&t=31177&p=379027#p379027
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #10 on: September 14, 2010, 02:28:27 PM »
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #11 on: September 14, 2010, 02:29:35 PM »
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I'm still hoping that people who want to have a mature conversation will show up and take the time to share their feelings. So far all the responses have been accusations, insults, name calling, in other words, the usual. But I'm still optimistic that some people here are willing to have a mature conversation, and this thread is open to them and I encourage them to post.

Good for you darlin'!  You keep your chin up!
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #12 on: September 14, 2010, 02:32:39 PM »
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #13 on: September 14, 2010, 02:37:10 PM »
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Thanks, I will. If you ever want to share about your family and your feelings towards them, this thread will be here. Thanks for posting.

Ok....ummm, thanks??  You do realize Fornits has been around quite a while, right?   :ftard:
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Re: How do you feel towards your parents?
« Reply #14 on: September 14, 2010, 03:17:27 PM »
Endless series of troll threads is endless.
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