Author Topic: Why did you get sent to a program? (Read 1366 times)

Anonymous · « **on:** December 14, 2009, 01:47:21 PM »

People talk about abuse that took place at programs. There are two sides to a coin. Why did your parents send you there? Were you using drugs? Were you fighting in your home, in school or after school? Were you drinking excessively? Did you try to commit suicide? These are good questions.

Anonymous · « **Reply #1 on:** December 14, 2009, 01:58:35 PM »

My mom was pretty sure my stepdad was exactly the same kind of loser she’s always hooked up with. After my sister got knocked up at fifteen and moved in with her boyfriend’s family to get out, it was easy to blame her for a while and then it was my turn. My mom decided a program for me was the choice for salvaging her marriage to an asshole.They got divorced anyway.

Anonymous · « **Reply #2 on:** December 14, 2009, 02:03:14 PM »

I was just doing normal teenage stuff. Sneaking out, drinking, smoking pot....nothing outrageous. Same stuff all the other kids were doing but Dad heard about this program and liked that it reinforced his 'tough love' stance so off I went. All those other kids I was hanging out with before going in, who were all doing much "worse" things than me somehow managed to muddle through teenagedom without interference from unqualified quacks and have lived relatively normal, happy lives. Meanwhile, I've had to struggle just to find my own identity since it was pounded into groupthink so many years ago.

Anonymous · « **Reply #3 on:** December 14, 2009, 02:04:54 PM »

Quote from: "middlechild"

My mom was pretty sure my stepdad was exactly the same kind of loser she’s always hooked up with. After my sister got knocked up at fifteen and moved in with her boyfriend’s family to get out, it was easy to blame her for a while and then it was my turn. My mom decided a program for me was the choice for salvaging her marriage to an asshole.They got divorced anyway.

Were you using drugs? Were you fighting in your home, in school or after school? Were you drinking excessively? Did you try to commit suicide? These are good questions.

Anonymous · « **Reply #4 on:** December 14, 2009, 02:10:59 PM »

Quote from: "Why did you get sent to a program?"

Quote from: "middlechild"
My mom was pretty sure my stepdad was exactly the same kind of loser she’s always hooked up with. After my sister got knocked up at fifteen and moved in with her boyfriend’s family to get out, it was easy to blame her for a while and then it was my turn. My mom decided a program for me was the choice for salvaging her marriage to an asshole.They got divorced anyway.

Were you using drugs? Were you fighting in your home, in school or after school? Were you drinking excessively? Did you try to commit suicide? These are good questions.

They answered your question. Sorry it wasn't what you were looking for.

Anonymous · « **Reply #5 on:** December 14, 2009, 02:16:49 PM »

Quote from: "inmate # 57"

I was just doing normal teenage stuff. Sneaking out, drinking, smoking pot....nothing outrageous. Same stuff all the other kids were doing but Dad heard about this program and liked that it reinforced his 'tough love' stance so off I went. All those other kids I was hanging out with before going in, who were all doing much "worse" things than me somehow managed to muddle through teenagedom without interference from unqualified quacks and have lived relatively normal, happy lives. Meanwhile, I've had to struggle just to find my own identity since it was pounded into groupthink so many years ago.

The behaviors you exhibited are not normal. Troubled teens view this as normal because they see so many other teens doing it. How much were you drinking? How often would you sneak out? What time did you sneak out? Did your parents tell you not to sneak out and you chose not to follow their direction? I think there are details missing.

Anonymous · « **Reply #6 on:** December 14, 2009, 02:28:16 PM »

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The behaviors you exhibited are not normal.

You feel qualified to make that judgement about an anonymous poster on the internet, knowing NONE of the details or surrounding context? Wow. Aren't you special!

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Troubled teens view this as normal because they see so many other teens doing it.

Helicopter parents see kids who are starting to grow up and gain a mind of their own as a threat to their power and control. They tend to over-react to normal teenage acting out.

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How much were you drinking?

A helluva lot less than the other kids around me. Again, somehow they all turned out fairly well. I - the lightweight of the group - was sent away and am the only one of us that really ended up with emotional damage from my childhood/teen years.

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How often would you sneak out? What time did you sneak out?

A few times, after mom was asleep.

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Did your parents tell you not to sneak out and you chose not to follow their direction?

Correct. Do you expect kids to always follow rules? Are you looking for obedient little drones, or healthy teens that grow up to have critical thinking skills?

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I think there are details missing.

I'm sure you do.

Anonymous · « **Reply #7 on:** December 14, 2009, 02:52:50 PM »

Quote from: "Inmate # 57"

Quote from: "Guest"

The behaviors you exhibited are not normal.

You feel qualified to make that judgement about an anonymous poster on the internet, knowing NONE of the details or surrounding context? Wow. Aren't you special!
Troubled teens view this as normal because they see so many other teens doing it.

Summary judgments like that are stock and trade of the "intake requirements" for the flesh traders that profit from diverting any kid they can get cash for into a program.

Anonymous · « **Reply #8 on:** December 14, 2009, 03:01:29 PM »

Quote from: "Why did you get sent to a program?"

Quote from: "middlechild"
My mom was pretty sure my stepdad was exactly the same kind of loser she’s always hooked up with. After my sister got knocked up at fifteen and moved in with her boyfriend’s family to get out, it was easy to blame her for a while and then it was my turn. My mom decided a program for me was the choice for salvaging her marriage to an asshole.They got divorced anyway.

Were you using drugs? Were you fighting in your home, in school or after school? Were you drinking excessively? Did you try to commit suicide? These are good questions.

No, I had tried tequila once and didn’t like it. I had skipped school twice. I was an honors student. I tried to die once. Years later, after I was free because no matter where I went I still felt trapped.
The real issue was my stepdad hitting my mom, my mom hitting him, both of them hitting us and his drunken “apologies” that included molesting my older sister.
None of us talk to our mom anymore. She only seems to mind on her own birthday or around the holidays. She doesn’t and will not ever have a relationship with my sister’s children.

And fuck you very much for asking, troll.

Anonymous · « **Reply #9 on:** December 15, 2009, 12:48:46 AM »

Quote from: "Eliscu2"

Quote from: "Why did you get sent to a program?"
People talk about abuse that took place at programs. There are two sides to a coin. Why did your parents send you there? Were you using drugs? Were you fighting in your home, in school or after school? Were you drinking excessively? Did you try to commit suicide? These are good questions.

I got sent to Elan because I did not match the furniture at home; in fact my Brothers and I all got sent away right after my Dad married his 3rd wife. Oh and because he had plenty of Money to send me away.

You did not answer the questions. Your sarcasm indicates you were disrespectful you your parents, did drugs, drank, ran away and disrespected teachers.

Anonymous · « **Reply #10 on:** December 15, 2009, 12:55:44 AM »

zeig heil!

Anonymous · « **Reply #11 on:** December 15, 2009, 12:59:48 AM »

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You did not answer the questions. Your sarcasm indicates you were disrespectful you your parents, did drugs, drank, ran away and disrespected teachers.

Your presumptuousness indicates you’re a loser trolling a survivor site, or worse you're a flesh trading Edcon.

Anonymous · « **Reply #12 on:** December 15, 2009, 01:09:39 AM »

People are avoiding the tough questions like they did in programs. They did not do the work to help them succeed after graduation. As a result, they still exhibit behaviors like they do on this website. It is really sorry and feel bad for the families. They are the real victims people!

Anonymous · « **Reply #13 on:** December 15, 2009, 01:14:18 AM »

Why are you asking these questions? Did you send one of your children away to a program? Do you work for a program?

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