but yeah, the most malicious people i've ever met have been program types Just can't let other people alone. Is that what you mean?
Yes, pretty much. It's a bummer, because this person has plenty of redeeming qualities, and I can put up with a lot of things that might bug most other people, but I don't deal well at all with the other things, like nit-picking. I hate being micro-managed. Give me some guidance, alright, but don't keep checking up on me; give me a chance.
Then there's this thing where there can be a quick escalation to the shouting match. As soon as someone steps it up with me verbally, I get 'that feeling.' Hard to explain, but I think you all know exactly what I am talking about. It's been getting better but I still really dislike it when someone starts increasing their verbal decibel level in my direction. I was traumatized by assholes yelling at me and wasn't allowed to do shit about it, and this person knows that, yet it keeps happening... It is at those moments when I think I would be better off alone. Overall I don't want this, but at times like that, I start to think otherwise.