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Anonymous:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gE5yINOn4N4

Ursus:
Unbelievable.

What can ya do, but laugh laugh laugh, albeit cynically as all hell, when Malcolm shamelessly tries to milk yet another unfortunate bullycide as yet another opportunity for marketing one of the bully meccas of New England: Hyde School.

Seriously, how come Malcolm fails to mention suicides and suicide attempts brought on by the bullying going on at Hyde School, bullying that is not only condoned but required by Hyde School officially as part of its Brother's Keeper philosophy?

Where's the accountability, Malcolm, for Hyde School's role in perpetrating and covering up those bullycide events?

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Breaking News
Posted: Apr 5, 2010
Hyde Schools
Bath, ME & Woodstock, CT

Bullying: Our Broken Schools

Contact:
Rose Mulligan
207-837-9441
http://www.hyde.edu

April 01, 2010

President of Hyde Schools in Bath, ME and Woodstock, CT, Malcolm Gauld, addresses one of the ongoing issues in schools in America-bullying-and argues that our culture's preoccupation with achievement lies at its root. Gauld is recognized as one of the nation's leading experts on character education and parenting. He is President of Hyde Schools, the network of character-building public and private schools that pioneered the 'Attitude over Aptitude' philosophy.

In the wake of yet another tragic teen suicide, that of Phoebe Prince, the Massachusetts teenager who hanged herself recently in her own home after enduring months of bullying at the hands of schoolmates, I again find myself asking: What are we really teaching our kids?

After 35+ years of working with kids and families, I sometimes claim that I have immunity from astonishment. That's not true. The loss of any student is always a major jolt, a sensory overload that leaves an emotional scar lasting forever. However, the loss of a student by his or her own hand is immediately unbearable, taking on a feeling that can only be called sickening. As educators, we become obsessed with finding some way to ensure that kids like Phoebe Prince do not die in vain.

And yet, our schools remain paralyzed, focused on objectives that are not only unsound; they actually fuel many of the problems we profess to want to solve. Our dynamic reminds me of an old "I Love Lucy" episode. When Ricky comes home to find Lucy on hands and knees looking for a lost earring on the living room floor, he asks, "Did you lose it here in the living room?" Lucy replies, "No, I lost it in the bedroom, but the light is so much better here."

That scene reminds me of what we're doing with our kids in our schools. We care more about what they can do than about who they are. And they know it. They know that we're totally focused on improving their test scores. On some level they might sense that we'd also like them to develop their character, but they know it's really only the "Suggested Reading" section of the syllabus. Parents might blame the schools, but we are fully complicit in the problem as are the colleges with their steadfast admissions requirements. Never kid a kid. Regardless of whether they can figure out the quadratic equation we want them to solve, they will never misread our true expectations of them. They simply establish their priorities in accordance with ours.

Just as no amount of tinkering was going to save the horse-and-buggy from the advent of the automobile, the schools of today are not going to get us where we want to go. We need to retool, overhaul, or better yet, flat-out junk what we've got and begin anew with fresh priorities:


* Attitude over aptitude,
* Effort over ability,
* Character over talent.
There are schools, such as those within the Hyde Organization, that do strive to honor these priorities one school at a time, knowing that it's too slow. We look to partner with others - schools, parents, communities - who want to trigger a national discussion that will transform schools into the inspirational beacons they absolutely must be for kids like Phoebe, those in S. Hadley, and millions of others across the country. We owe it to them. We owe it to us.

About Malcolm Gauld
Malcolm Gauld is recognized as one of the nation's leading experts on character education and parenting. His character development program, delivered at the Hyde schools, has been featured on The Today Show, PBS, and much more. A natural storyteller, Malcolm uses humor and personal experience to convey his practical, insightful, and timely messages on parenting, character, and leadership to a wide mainstream audience.

For more information about Malcolm Gauld, Hyde Schools, and The Biggest Job We'll Ever Have parenting workshops, contact at 207-837-9441, or visit greatparenting101.com and http://www.hyde.edu.


Copyright ©2010, Woodbury Reports, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

Matt C. Hoffman:
Hi Ursus,

Interesting topic. Two things here I see , one being internet bullying. I don't think the bully actually realizes that they are bullying another human being. (not that I believe that the one doing the bullying can be educated to this fact ) Due to the psychic make up of the bully.  You could point this out until you are blue in the face and the bully would just not get it.

The other fact of internet bullying is that the bully (wheather they realize it or not ) leaves an electronic trail, that can be traced back to them , where upon if the bullying tactics resulted in the death of a person... well hopefully the authorities would get the first crack at them.

If the bullying is done on an open forum like fornits, face book for example , the bully again will never admit to bullying due to their psychic makeup. What the bully doesn't seem to realize is that their actions (though directed at one individual or a few ) is witnessed and seen by the multitudes of those readers of these type of public forums.  

Yes I am sure someone will find humor in the "bully that doesn't know its a bully " , they should really be known as predators and not as bullies and in that context its not as funny is it .

The other thing that struck me by this thread is that the program was one big bully (predator) . My specific program was elan  and even though us suviviours have called it a corercive program and it was, you could also say that it was a program based on bullying to get to its means.

And as a result of this type of bullying to break down individuals , which was very successful , the directors and assisitant directors of elan had a knack for being supreme bulliers. Yet they had no knowledge or insight in how to build  back up the broken individual. (broken from the intense bullying brought on by elan 's type of program and its henchmen's implementation of the elan concept) Therefore is it any wonder that a lot of good people have commited suicide, in my opinion from just having come incontact with ricci's progam and the his henchmen that helped him run it.

To me and this is just me,I see the programs as places where really intensive bullying ocurred, very similar to intense public school bullying , and internet bullying. All which can have the same result and that is causing a person such pain that they actually make the decision to end their life.

I guess the bottom line is that all forms of bullying can result in the possible death of the victim. Whether it be in the form of "encouragement " by other students on a hike or what ever word you want to use. The end result can be death as we have all witnessed and that is sad it is also very morally wrong to say the least. Sure bullying and corercive are words that are interchangable when talking about some of these programs.

Peace

Matt

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