The Anon Guru wrote:
Fear is a choice. Sometimes conscious, sometimes an internal response to danger, but it's still a choice.
Tell the little girl who trembles in terror as her mother rages toward her that fear is a choice. Or the little boy whose father has just slipped into his room to have his way with him. Or the children frozen to the sofa waiting for their beatings from dad for the trouble they caused mom, that fear is a choice.
Tell the teen who was handed over to complete strangers and isolated from the world that fear is a choice. Tell the teen who hasn't spoken to anyone they love for months on end, that fear is a choice, as their arm is being twisted to a breaking point, or a 300# counselor is lying on their back as they draw their last breath, or they're sitting in the blazing sun in Utah fading into unconsciousness, or they're dying of a perforated ulcer while being told they are faking their symptoms. I'm sure they would appreciate your one-liner solution to the world's problems.
It takes a hell of alot of time and reevaluation to get over early traumas, before one can sleep through a bump in the night, before one can remember that anger expressed by another will not lead to violence, before one can consciously choose to react differently. The key being consciously.
Pop-psych or new age one-liners do not magically dispell the atrocities from one's memory or one's future reactions to similar situations... witnessed, by the thousands of parents who have been through the seminars and STILL Choose to buy the Fear the Teen Help Industry is $elling.
Apparently they are not taking to heart the advice of the programmer.
Deborah
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With no notion of what a peaceful family or a peaceful culture might have to offer, I am a refugee from my own childhood.
~~Derrick Jensen
