your daughter may have thrown the zoloft away because of side effects of that medication. zoloft is marketed as one of the new ssri anti-depressants with relatively few side effects, but each patient reacts differently and some people do in fact have unpleasant side effects. you should talk to her and her psychiatrist about this and consider trying a second or third medication instead. it takes time to find the right one. she is too young to understand this.
sending your daughter away may temporarily ease the stress in your life, but it will hurt her terribly in the long run unless you send her to a fantastic place that she falls in love with, thrives at, and allows her to maintain close communication (unmonitored) with you at all times. typically you get what you pay for, so i doubt most of us could ever afford the perfect place. in any event, if you send her away, she will know that you abandoned her, and this will scar her for life. like it or not, she is your daughter and you owe her support and yes, even love at this point in her life. you really only have a few years left in which you can play a significant role in her life.
a consultation with the obgyn about pms and hormonal imbalance is a good idea as her hormones fluctuate quite a bit during the month, affecting her mood significantly. taking a fun, relaxing trip to a place you both would enjoy for some bonding is a wonderful idea. try to remember her good points, talk about her recent difficulties and tell her you are worried and want to help. she may be concerned also if she is in as much trouble as you have indicated.
good luck to you.
[ This Message was edited by: str8isabuse on 2003-04-17 15:21 ]