Did you live with your parents post-program?

[CCM girl 1989]

You people disgust me. I just think you are a group of babies. You say program like it is a bad word so I will say when I came home from away school instead. Away school taught me a lot of things about life and one of those lessons was how to have an adult relationship. I was still only sixteen when I came home but I had matured years beyond my age.

It looks like you babies regressed in maturity because you still blame your parents for everything. In nature the only thing that does this is a baby. Do you need your diaper changed baby is that why you are crying? Your parents could of called social services and had you taken away for free for the little assholes that you were. They spent money they could of used to buy a new car or a fleet of new cars for the really bad ones. Some kids just never grow up they just remain babies all their life. Cry all you want because nothing is more pathetic than adults who still blame their parents for their self imposed misery.

I know who you are. I remember you from away school, the sobby kid in the corner who cries for mommy. When that doesn't work you tell lies to the others to make them feel sorry for you. Instead of being strong like you should be, you manipulate people to pity you and give you attention and other things. I know your kind, I know all about you. You are the type of kid who complains about the program all day long, but then you stay past your emancipation age because you are too scared to leave. You are the most pathetic person that was in away school, and here you are all congregated having a group cry baby session. How precious.

You never grew up, you are the same pathetic kid crying in the corner hoping someone else will notice and take pity on you. Grow the fuck up already.

Are you now using the big potty? Awww.........good for you!!!!

[Anonymous]

who, "all parties should sign to show commitment" ....you lost my point

If you are threatened with getting sent somewhere else again, you sign it regardless of if you are committed to it. The contract is as meaningless as any forced confession signed through torture.

the stronger the written contract, the stronger the tension, becouse as i said, the kids are forced to sign the contract. there is no commitment. it's fake commitment to get out of a hell hole.

[TheWho]

who, "all parties should sign to show commitment" ....you lost my point

If you are threatened with getting sent somewhere else again, you sign it regardless of if you are committed to it. The contract is as meaningless as any forced confession signed through torture.

the stronger the written contract, the stronger the tension, becouse as i said, the kids are forced to sign the contract. there is no commitment. it's fake commitment to get out of a hell hole.

Well that stinks if that is the way it went down for you.  Sorry to hear that.  I think most people (parents/staff) would realize that the contract is meaningless if it is forced.  As you indicated, Ha!, In order for the contract to be effective all parties involved need to agree.  In my daughters case she had the contract written up first and then we negotiated from there.  This way it was her contract (not mine or the schools).  We played around with the times, curfews, friends, chores a little bit but we agreed before signing.



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[Anonymous]

it went down the same way with me. except i had to re-write it around a 100 times to meet my counselor's liking untill he found it acceptable enough to even be shown and considered by my parents.

the problem of tension, which you ignore and cant see, is that it forces the parent to be a cop, and enforcer of the laws set by the contract. The tension within the family has a direct relationship with the amount of enforcement the contract gets, and how much the kid resists.

The problem of resistance is ever present among anyone with any sense of dignity. once a kid leaves their program (weather pulled or graduated, doesnt matter as long as they were there long enough to get affected by it) they start the process of realizing how much the program really messed with their head. depending on the circumstances, that process can be long or short. for me it took less than 24 hours.

a good illustration, though somewhat exaggerated by current program standards, can be seen in the movie OVER THE GW. i highly recommend you watch it.