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Requesting Parents' Assessment of Hyde School
Anonymous:
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--- Quote from: ""Guest"" ---Couldn't have said it better myself, Gary (although I wouldn't have been so nice!). :D
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Thank you... it's one thing for people who fear reprisals to take the cloak of anonymity, but guys like Sheesh are simply cowards.
Anyone with the most basic rhetorical skills could slice and dice this chump without yawning.
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Yeah! Come on Hyde. Is that the best you can do? Show some game. Gary is kicking you rhetorical asses. He called you leader, what was it? Old and feeble?
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Hi all you posters. I am a former Hyde parent. My husband and I had dinner tonight with a former Hyde student. Ironically she brought up the name Larry Dubinsky the former staff member and present friend of the leaders of Hyde. It is my understanding that he was fired from the school for sexual harassment. He is also the husband of Donna Dubinsky who is presently employeed at Hyde School. He lives in a home provided by Hyde up the street from the Woodstock campus.
This former student told us of a couple of incidences that happened to her while at Hyde. She commented that she doesn't understand how Hyde has been able to get away with this for so long.
She told us the story about how when several students were put on "2-4" (a punishment) Larry Dubinsky as the head of Deans area required them as punishment to go clean the attic at his house. While up in the attic she said there was a lone chair and surrounding this chair was piles and piles of pornographic magazines. The kids were in shock that pornographic magazines would be his home not only because he was a staff member of Hyde, but also the fact that he was a husband and a father of young children.
After the kids got done doing the cleaning of his house he then told the girls to go jump in the pool with their clothes on. The girls were wearing t-shirts and according to her it was normal behavior for Larry to want to see what would happen when one gets wet in a t-shirt. I don't quite understand why kids who were being punished would then be invited to jump in a pool as a reward???
The other story this girl told us was about having to carry items from Larry's house back to campus. Donna Dubinsky was driving the van and between the boxes and the kids there was very little room to sit in this van. Larry requested in front of his wife that this girl sit on his lap. Hmmmm.....
This same girl told us how much Hyde damaged her and how she wasted the important years of her life by being at Hyde. She said that although her Mother was hoping Hyde would help her self esteem, Hyde accomplished bringing her down more although at the present time she is doing very well IN SPITE of Hyde.
I encourage more students to come to this site and tell their stories whether positive or negative.
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I don't know Larry D., but if this tale is reported accurately, this is horrendous behavior.
One might also question whether it was appropriate for a Hyde staff member to ask a student to clean his personal attic. In my opinion, that's a form of exploitation -- not that I'm surprised that a Hyde staff member would stoop to such unprofessional tactics. Doesn't that sort of mistreatment violate some of Hyde's touted values and principles? Might that mean that Hyde is hypocritical? Hmmm . . .
The Hyde nightmare continues . . .
Anonymous:
My point is that what has happened at Hyde, especially in Woodstock, has a lot to do with the "Tri-State" elitist attitude.
These parents, a lot like Gary, expected service with a smile and when they didn't get it, would either blow out of the program or push the envelope so far that they disrupted the flow of daily activities.
It isn't happening anymore...Laura Gauld dumped the trash...faculty, staff, families that didn't understand what was going on there and has created the old community that made Hyde famous. Famous enough to be featured on National Television and in national publications.
Hyde is not perfect and never will be, there will always be disgruntled customers, just like in any business. The basic philosophy of character development and unique potential is a proven winner. And if Gary and Jerri weren't hucked out by McCrann on that fateful day, he'd be an active alumni parent helping out his NJ region....Isn't that right GE?
So I guess you guys can use this place to complain and try to gain momentum to put Hyde out of business...But I truly believe that there's a place for Hyde School. It really does help more than it hurts.
Sheesh
gary eskow:
--- Quote from: ""Guest"" ---My point is that what has happened at Hyde, especially in Woodstock, has a lot to do with the "Tri-State" elitist attitude.
These parents, a lot like Gary, expected service with a smile and when they didn't get it, would either blow out of the program or push the envelope so far that they disrupted the flow of daily activities.
It isn't happening anymore...Laura Gauld dumped the trash...faculty, staff, families that didn't understand what was going on there and has created the old community that made Hyde famous. Famous enough to be featured on National Television and in national publications.
Hyde is not perfect and never will be, there will always be disgruntled customers, just like in any business. The basic philosophy of character development and unique potential is a proven winner. And if Gary and Jerri weren't hucked out by McCrann on that fateful day, he'd be an active alumni parent helping out his NJ region....Isn't that right GE?
So I guess you guys can use this place to complain and try to gain momentum to put Hyde out of business...But I truly believe that there's a place for Hyde School. It really does help more than it hurts.
Sheesh
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First of all, Sheesh deserves credit for taking a reasonable tone and presenting his/her arguments in a more thoughtful manner. I respect that.
As my paper reveals, I, like Sheesh, find much to admire in the dedication to developing healthy kids that so many of the staff evince on a daily basis. Without a doubt, my experience there helped me more than it hurt, and I never said otherwise.
This was, however, in part due to the fact that I never allowed myself to be railroaded. Nor did I take my feelings and stuff them in order to fly under the radar, as so my parents- and students- do to get by.
The reason I think a balanced article should be written and widely disseminated is not to destroy the Hyde School, Sheesh. The question is this: do you believe that holding people accountable for bad behaviors helps their character development? Do you believe it takes courage to speak truth- especially to people in power- and that those who do so should be commended and not belittled? If so, why did you take such a sarcastic and rhetorically charged tone in your initial posting?
Many people go through Hyde who have low esteem issues, who are confused, who are uncertain about the paths they are on. From what I have seen personally at the school, and from the numerous posts on this site and elsewhere, scores of them emerge from Hyde more damaged than they were upon entry. Their story- along with those from people like you who are grateful for the time they spent at Hyde- must be told, both to hold the staff's feet to the fire, that they may grow- and to ensure that incoming families have an accurate understanding of Hyde.
Again, I respect your changed tone- it makes true dialogue possible.
G
gary eskow:
--- Quote from: ""Guest"" ---My point is that what has happened at Hyde, especially in Woodstock, has a lot to do with the "Tri-State" elitist attitude.
These parents, a lot like Gary, expected service with a smile and when they didn't get it, would either blow out of the program or push the envelope so far that they disrupted the flow of daily activities.
It isn't happening anymore...Laura Gauld dumped the trash...faculty, staff, families that didn't understand what was going on there and has created the old community that made Hyde famous. Famous enough to be featured on National Television and in national publications.
Hyde is not perfect and never will be, there will always be disgruntled customers, just like in any business. The basic philosophy of character development and unique potential is a proven winner. And if Gary and Jerri weren't hucked out by McCrann on that fateful day, he'd be an active alumni parent helping out his NJ region....Isn't that right GE?
So I guess you guys can use this place to complain and try to gain momentum to put Hyde out of business...But I truly believe that there's a place for Hyde School. It really does help more than it hurts.
Sheesh
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First of all, Sheesh deserves credit for taking a reasonable tone and presenting his/her arguments in a more thoughtful manner. I respect that.
As my paper reveals, I, like Sheesh, find much to admire in the dedication to developing healthy kids that so many of the staff evince on a daily basis. Without a doubt, my experience there helped me more than it hurt, and I never said otherwise.
This was, however, in part due to the fact that I never allowed myself to be railroaded. Nor did I take my feelings and stuff them in order to fly under the radar, as so my parents- and students- do to get by.
The reason I think a balanced article should be written and widely disseminated is not to destroy the Hyde School, Sheesh. The question is this: do you believe that holding people accountable for bad behaviors helps their character development? Do you believe it takes courage to speak truth- especially to people in power- and that those who do so should be commended and not belittled? If so, why did you take such a sarcastic and rhetorically charged tone in your initial posting?
Many people go through Hyde who have low esteem issues, who are confused, who are uncertain about the paths they are on. From what I have seen personally at the school, and from the numerous posts on this site and elsewhere, scores of them emerge from Hyde more damaged than they were upon entry. Their story- along with those from people like you who are grateful for the time they spent at Hyde- must be told, both to hold the staff's feet to the fire, that they may grow- and to ensure that incoming families have an accurate understanding of Hyde.
Again, I respect your changed tone- it makes true dialogue possible.
G
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: ""Guest"" ---My point is that what has happened at Hyde, especially in Woodstock, has a lot to do with the "Tri-State" elitist attitude.
These parents, a lot like Gary, expected service with a smile and when they didn't get it, would either blow out of the program or push the envelope so far that they disrupted the flow of daily activities.
It isn't happening anymore...Laura Gauld dumped the trash...faculty, staff, families that didn't understand what was going on there and has created the old community that made Hyde famous. Famous enough to be featured on National Television and in national publications.
Hyde is not perfect and never will be, there will always be disgruntled customers, just like in any business. The basic philosophy of character development and unique potential is a proven winner. And if Gary and Jerri weren't hucked out by McCrann on that fateful day, he'd be an active alumni parent helping out his NJ region....Isn't that right GE?
So I guess you guys can use this place to complain and try to gain momentum to put Hyde out of business...But I truly believe that there's a place for Hyde School. It really does help more than it hurts.
Sheesh
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