If you're responding to me, no I see no value in people speculating that they would've died w/o program. I've made the same argument before. They might also walk out of program and get run down by a bus. There are no guarentees and we begin the dying process the moment we're born. As you know, they've been programmed. They must 'make the best of it', find some 'value', in order to maintain internal equilibrium when the truth is too confusing or overwhelming to deal with head on.
The counseling direction I suggested was not intended for the person who has bought the deadinsaneorinjail program line. Although, come to think of it, it might be useful for them as well to shake loose some of the programming.
It was intended for you, in response to, "I can't even begin to think of what I would have been like if I hadn't been sent to CEDU."
To rephrase, "Had I not been sent to CEDU, I would've/could've/might've __________." Then express your first thought.
Make sense? In terms of accessing the loss/grief? Pretty mainline access if you take the direction seriously and stick with it. But, do not dwell on the losses/grief outside of the counseling session.