I'm 39, I have a 10 year old daughter with some special needs, I tutor/teach a seventeen year old who is an incredibly sweet girl but who these places would consider a "troubled teen" in a heartbeat. I tutor her because her pshrink says she is unable to attend a regular school. Her parents (and I, not that that matters) agree.
As a parent, I would be laughing if it wasn't so damned sad that relatives or friends or parents are whinging about a seventeen year old boy being more under the "control" of his girlfriend than of his parents.
I'd be more worried for one that *wasn't*.
Men who, as teenage boys, made complete idiots of themselves over some teenage girl, and ignored everything their parents said---which is most men---are the ones who mostly end up healthy, functional grown men.
The men who are really screwed up are the ones who are still living with Dear Mama at thirty-five.
A boyfriend/girlfriend having more influence over a teen than the parents is normal and healthy. Even when the boyfriend/girlfriend has scarily more influence over the teen than the parents do is normal and healthy.
It's okay that parents are scared spitless over that. That's normal, too. All parents of normal, reasonably healthy kids (which just means kids who have a typical number of random abnormalities and problems) are frequently scared spitless for our offspring. That's parenthood, comes with the territory.
Is Alex a screwed up wild child? Apparently. Is he wild beyond and outside the normal spectrum of mild to wild in any generation of teens? Doesn't look it. Looks like he's a bit wilder than average.
I don't blame his parents at all for being scared spitless. I blame them for overreacting and providing a "solution" that (in my opinion) is worse for any child than any problem.
Mr. and Mrs. Alex's Parents: You're either naive or control freaks, and the responsible thing to do would be to wise up and transfer your kid to a reputable 6 week or 3 month drug rehab program, not a troubled teen RTC. Reputable 6 wk to 3 mo. drug rehab has good success rates. Troubled teen RTCs just further damage your child--if you leave your kid there and don't have disastrous, family shattering results, you'll be very lucky.
Nobody likes being told they're screwing up, but you're screwing up.
There is no excuse for sending a drug abusing adult or child to any facility for longer than 100 days, *maximum*, because there isn't any good evidence that adding more time does any better job of getting someone off drugs and keeping them sober.
The only thing sending a drug abusing child to a facility for longer than 100 days does is get the inconvenient, unpleasant kid out of your hair and put the kid through hell---for no other reason than getting him out of your hair or exerting absolute control over every minute of his life, 24/7.
I would not send my child to a WWASP facility, any WWASP facility, even if she was in the hospital in critical condition from OD-ing on crank.
I'd send her to rehab somewhere in that case, but not any WWASP facility. I'd never send anyone, even someone at death's door, to any rehab facility for a course of rehab longer than three months.
Why?
There is no sensible reason to believe that any rehab course longer than three months, max, does any better than a three month or less rehab course. Advertising form places that try to sell you long Programs doesn't count as a sensible reason. They don't have reputable, scientific studies that say these Programs are good for the people who go through them. The available reputable evidence goes the other way.
Look at what the government itself says when it defines "long term" for drug rehab treatment:
"The median length of stay for completed long-term residential treatment episodes was 75 days, ranging from 73 days for cocaine to 91 days for opiates."
73 to 91 days is "long term"---not six months to years. Judges aren't putting, for example, 25 year old drunk drivers in adult versions of six months to multi-year residential Programs like SCL. They would exist for adults, and repeat drunk drivers or drugged drivers *would* be getting sent if they *worked*. They don't.
Or not any better than a drug rehab course that is 3 months *at the most*.
You can get all kinds of actual research information from
http://oas.samhsa.gov -- which is the site I culled that quote from.
Julie