On 2006-01-10 16:03:00, CaughtInTheMiddle wrote:
I think it was WWFSMD that said read through and ignore the unhelpful things, and get a screen name.
I said ignore the childish remarks, but don't mistake me for saying to disregard angry posters. They've earned the right to that anger. They're no longer expected to just sit quietly by while all the insanity swirls around them.
I'm also not convinced at all that Alex is in any major, life-threatening trouble here. I know the knee-jerk reaction from most parents is to really freak out when they find out their kids are experimenting in drugs or if there is an abrupt change in personality and friends but its just dead wrong IMO.
Most kids find their own way. So many parents seem to be looking for a way to control their kids. I've seen it posted here and other sites numerous times. "Oh, they're almost 18? Better hurry up, you don't have much time left" etc. At a time in their lives when its NORMAL for them to rebell, NORMAL for them to scare the life out of us, NORMAL to make impulsive, irrational and sometimes dangerous decisions, people are trying to control them, put some bubble around them until the parents feel they're "wise enough" to handle life. They're not gonna get wise until they have LIFE EXPERIENCE. That's not what happens when you disrupt the natural process of breaking away, finding thier own identity and autonomy. That process gets stunted or stifled completely. While I obviously understand the desire to protect our kids from harm, self inflicted and otherwise, ultimately we can't. They have to be able to protect themselves, they have to be able to figure out what's important to them and they are NOT going to learn that sitting in some room being force-fed with bullshit about having a "drug problem" before they even hit 18. Things have just gotten ridiculous.
I'm glad to see that people are talking to each other, I really am. I hope that continues. I hope you still post or at least read here. If you do, be prepared to be challenged on some of your views. There's a wealth of information here if you look. I gotta say that it grinds my gears that Alex's mom "can't bear to read" here. I have the same reaction every time I hear someone say "oh, you don't know how hard this was for the parents to do". :roll: If she can't bear to read it, how must Alex feel having to live it?
They know that it is human nature to take up causes whereby a man may oppress his neighbor, no matter how unjustly. ... Hence they have had no trouble in finding men who would preach the damnability and heresy of the new doctrine from the very pulpit.
--Galileo Galilei, Italian astronomer