Alright already! You've made your point abundantly clear. And I agree, up to a point. IF you're planning on pursuing legal action, THEN you should keep everything between you and your lawyer, follow their instructions to the letter and let them do their thing.
HOWEVER, there are a couple of drawbacks. Litigation is coercion, that's what it is. Right or wrong, when you initiate coercion against anyone they're going to fight back. If they're evil, sadistic people w/ no respect for decency or fair play (in other words, if you have good grounds for invoking force of law against them) odds are pretty good that they're going to fight dirty. But there's probably not that much you can say in public or in private that a competent PI can't find out anyway. So the difference is not as big as you might think.
Whenever there's litigation, every smart person involved in it knows to keep mum. Even though the reasons are different, the end result is the same. No talking out in group, no talking behind backs, what went on there stays there, unless you're able to come out the other end of the process w/o a gag order (rare!)
At the end of the day, if you're both diligent and lucky, you MIGHT get a nice chunk of change and the vindication of depriving the defendant of a small portion of their illgotten gains. More valuable than that, though, IF you win, you have generated the type of reliable, retted, verified, under oath and challenged kind of evidence that people find believable.
Personally, I think this is a job for the IVth Estate. Just get the story out there into the public concience and the public dialog. Though I must admit it would be far more difficult if we didn't have all those reems and volumes of transcripts and news items based on them.
It's not for me to say which way you should play it.
Ministers say that they teach charity. That is natural. They live on hand-outs. All beggars teach that others should give.
--Robert G. Ingersoll, American politician and lecturer
