Seems to me there are more important issues at present than worrying about the history of who's who in Straights history, IMHO."
Ok, Woof, that's your opinion - but
you're the one who corrected me, but I do appreciate the information.
As far as the original poster goes - from what I've personally seen of vets and walking wounded - yes, there seems to be a seething rage left over even all these years later. Personally, I've known two people who were in programs listed on these boards, and I had to distance myself from both of these people who would even abuse household pets. And before anyone flames me, I
said "People I've known". It's the only frame of reference I have.
Is there really a "cycle" that can be broken? There is a book on Resilient kids that I read years ago - and the real title and author escape me right now - I wanna say Robert Lifton. But the point is - there are kids out there that went through some horrendous shit - satanic rituals, group rape, near death at the hands of abusers, you name it. But a percentage of these kids come away just fine. So that kind of puts a kink in the chain of abuse.
Once you recognize the fact that you've done something to hurt someone, physically or mentally, then you can take steps to not do it again. You're aware of it at that point. People who blame others for their abuses are the ones who don't
want it any other way, IMHO.
To all of you that got pissed off by this post - hey, I'll take responsibility for asking the question. All I wanted to know is if we were talking about true abuse, or being trolled by some idiot that thinks making a kid do their own laundry is psychologically damaging. It was not my intention to dig up crap for the sake of digging. My apologies to the OP as well.
As far as anything else I can say, I'd have to repeat NCLaw - you admitted it, you faced the music, now all you can do is continue to make things right. It's her decision in how she governs her life now.
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[ This Message was edited by: Helena Handbasket on 2005-10-13 06:40 ]