help me please

[Anonymous]

No I dont plan on dropping out of school.

[Anonymous]

If you are planning on not having an abortion have you considered putting the child up for adoption? I think you said you are only 14. You can barely take care of yourself.

[Antigen]

On 2005-08-24 13:24:00, Anonymous wrote:

"If you are planning on not having an abortion have you considered putting the child up for adoption? I think you said you are only 14. You can barely take care of yourself."

Oh Jesus Christ on a broken crutch! Here come the altruistic tyrants to save you from yourself!

Anon, did anybody ask you for your opinion about this? Do you walk up to strangers on the street and give them unasked for advice about such personal matters? Wait! Don't answer! I don't want to know!

I can very well do without God both in my life and in my painting, but I cannot, suffering as I am, do without something which is greater than I am, which is my life, the power to create.
--Vincent Van Gogh, Dutch painter

[iluvmike]

No im not 14. Im 16 turning 17 in November. And i dont plan on having an abortion or putting the child up for adoption. Im going to take care of my child. I have been taking care of my health and going to the doctors. I have already made plans for when the baby comes. I already enrolled myself into independent studys so i can continue my education and graduate while taking care of my child. I also have a job and save all my money so that i can financially take care of my baby. I will still be living with my mom, until Iam  financially stable enough to live on my own. and she is ok with this. I feel that im doing the best I can with this situation. An im sorry if some of you people dont approve and doubt my dedication.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure Iluvmike is a VERY reliable source of information regarding her boyfriend's issues. I suspect the parents have a clearer picture of what he may or may not have been doing.  I doubt he was sent away just because he got this child pregnant.

[Anonymous]

On 2005-08-24 14:15:00, Anonymous wrote:

"I'm sure Iluvmike is a VERY reliable source of information regarding her boyfriend's issues. I suspect the parents have a clearer picture of what he may or may not have been doing.  I doubt he was sent away just because he got this child pregnant."

And how would you know that, exactly?

Program parents are known for their hysteria and unreasonable decisions. It is not too far-fetched that that boy was sent away for getting his girlfriend pregnant. Many children have been sent away for far lesser "crimes".

[iluvmike]

Intresting, you really think a teen would tell his parents more things about what hes doing then his girlfriend? Well to clear that up for you,Mike was with me 24/7. There was never a day that we didnt hang out, or a day that we werent on the phone with each other for hours. So no thats the only reason. Mike and me promised each other that sence we were starting a family that we wouldnt do things like drugs, partying, ect. and both planned on finishing our education. His mom didnt like the fact that he dedicated his life to his pregnant girlfriend and thats why hes gone, because his mother didnt want to see her son grow up and be the responsible man he was becoming.

[Anonymous]

All I see is another drain on the system. Most children that wind up raising children live on welfare. Another couple mouths fed with food stamps and AFDC. Ill do the research and get back to you. I can see how responsible you are since you and your boyfriend used birth control? Why dont you talk to some of the teen mothers out there raising their babies, without the father that said they would help and always be there.

[Anonymous]

I know Mike and he was dedicated to me and our baby and still is. And I know many teen mothers. One of my close friends she had her baby when she was 14 and her second one when she was 17, she now is 19, shes lived on her own sence she was 16, no help at all from anyone, dads gone no family to help her. Shes NOT on welfare and she doesnt get foodstamps. She not only is a great mother to her children she graduated from high school is now intending college and works and supports her children. She just is one amazing women of many that i know that prove ignorant  
people like you wrong and shes had to deal with people like you that label teen mothers and there situation negativly. The label you put on teen mothers is wrong, to think its ok to belittle someone for that situation is wrong. Do you know any teen mothers your self? I doubt it. And again Mike isnt one of those fathers that said they would help and always be there and then bailed, he wants nothing more then to take care of our baby and i know that for a fact but his mother feels that her son should bail on the baby and sence he doesnt want to she did it for him.

[Anonymous]

I guess the parents wanted more for their son than to have him trapped by a pregnant girlfriend.  I suspect there was more going on.

[iluvmike]

What do you suspect was going on? And to say I trapped him is bullshit. All he ever wanted was to be with me and take care of our baby. Thats what made him happy, I NEVER forced him to be with me and he NEVER not wanted me to have this baby, but here dont take my word for it, heres something he wrote to me:

hey babi i luv u so much n i hate it that i cant talk to u like we normalli do but babi i promise u that i will call u as soon as i get a fone to use u r my number one priority babi i hope u kno jus how much u truly mean to me. u r my everything and without u i am nothing. i luv u so much u r the onli reason i am trying with my mom u r the reason im keeping good and not doing any bad. i want to marry you and i want us to have a babi that will be treated the way me n u werent i wanna be there for u and my little babi. babi u r my life n without u id be nothing. if i waz 18 i would git married to u right now bcuz u kno wut babi it haz onli been 2-3 monthz that weve been together but it haz been the best time of my life. i have never felt as complete as i feel right now babi. iono if this is all the same how u feel n iono maybe ull think itz too much but im sittin in class right now n all i can think about iz u babi. u r the onli good in my life babi thatz real talk n without u iono wut i wood do. please never leave me and dont move up north with ur mom cuz wen we wood b apart i would be going crazy. and i trust u babi so much which iz why i dont care if u go hang out with ne guyz or wutever but just dont let them do nething u kno wut i mean n if they do tell me i waz just kinda gittin buggd bcuz iono y ud wanna hang out with other guyz but itz ok i understand i trust u completely with them ok jus bring ur cell so i can call u :smile:. if u decide to go do something later itz ok i dont care jus tell me first like message me ight. ur life doesnt hafta revolve 100% around me ur right. newayz babi i jus wrote u this long ass repetitive letter to say 1 thing i luv u so much n no matter wut happenz u will alwayz be my one n onli. i luv u so much n im sry for wut ive been putting u thru i reeli dont think ive been being the man i cood b 2 u bcuz u deserve so much more then wut i do/give for u. i luv u so much u r my everything and without u i would die. no matter wut happenz i will ALWAYZ be there for u no matter wut

[OverLord]

On 2005-08-24 15:36:00, iluvmike wrote:

"What do you suspect was going on? And to say I trapped him is bullshit. All he ever wanted was to be with me and take care of our baby. Thats what made him happy, I NEVER forced him to be with me and he NEVER not wanted me to have this baby, but here dont take my word for it, heres something he wrote to me:



hey babi i luv u so much n i hate it that i cant talk to u like we normalli do but babi i promise u that i will call u as soon as i get a fone to use u r my number one priority babi i hope u kno jus how much u truly mean to me. u r my everything and without u i am nothing. i luv u so much u r the onli reason i am trying with my mom u r the reason im keeping good and not doing any bad. i want to marry you and i want us to have a babi that will be treated the way me n u werent i wanna be there for u and my little babi. babi u r my life n without u id be nothing. if i waz 18 i would git married to u right now bcuz u kno wut babi it haz onli been 2-3 monthz that weve been together but it haz been the best time of my life. i have never felt as complete as i feel right now babi. iono if this is all the same how u feel n iono maybe ull think itz too much but im sittin in class right now n all i can think about iz u babi. u r the onli good in my life babi thatz real talk n without u iono wut i wood do. please never leave me and dont move up north with ur mom cuz wen we wood b apart i would be going crazy. and i trust u babi so much which iz why i dont care if u go hang out with ne guyz or wutever but just dont let them do nething u kno wut i mean n if they do tell me i waz just kinda gittin buggd bcuz iono y ud wanna hang out with other guyz but itz ok i understand i trust u completely with them ok jus bring ur cell so i can call u :smile:. if u decide to go do something later itz ok i dont care jus tell me first like message me ight. ur life doesnt hafta revolve 100% around me ur right. newayz babi i jus wrote u this long ass repetitive letter to say 1 thing i luv u so much n no matter wut happenz u will alwayz be my one n onli. i luv u so much n im sry for wut ive been putting u thru i reeli dont think ive been being the man i cood b 2 u bcuz u deserve so much more then wut i do/give for u. i luv u so much u r my everything and without u i would die. no matter wut happenz i will ALWAYZ be there for u no matter wut



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An ebonics love letter, nice. Keep up hope, he'll be out some day.

[iluvmike]

haha ebonic love letter.... thanks overlord.

[Anonymous]

Babies having babies. Put it up for adoption. Sorry, but the cards are stacked against you. Why make things hard for yourself, your boyfriend and your families? And what happened to using birth control? Is it not available?

[Anonymous]

When are you going to be on Springer?