On 2005-07-30 08:28:00, Anonymous wrote:
"There are actually quite a few fathers who post on strugglingteens.com. Do a search on old posts by Kerry- and currently there is Dadrod and a few others.
I wish you could realize how ignorant and immature you sound. What was wrong with the post quoted below? These are caring parents whose kids have, in many cases, turned a corner. You are SO unwilling to admit that there are excellent programs out there. Hey-sorry you are still so screwed up and that the right choices weren't made for you, but get a life and get off your whining crusade against parents who actually found programs that helped their kids."
Have you actually read that post that was quoted?
It states, basically, that kids who have been through a program have many difficulties in making decisions on their own. It states that they had so much "therapy" and "help", they just can't take it any more. It states that after being forced into the child role for so long (by being controlled constantly, and not being allowed any sort of indepedence), they don't really know how to be anything else.
And you call that "love"? Putting your child in a program is not "love" and it's not "help". It's "I'm tired of parenting, so I'm going to pay someone else to do it for me; and I'm angry at you for growing up, so I'm going to pay someone to force you into the child role again".
It's sad that you feel the need to hurt your child this badly. I hope s/he will be able to overcome it eventually.